Dating divorced single parents?

it's tough enough out there in the dating world but I've come to a tough conclusion about dating single parents and who to stay away from. Single parents come in all flavors. However not all are equal. The single mother who was walked out on by her husband is a good person to date. they have morals and really didn't want the relationship to end but had no choice but to be a single parent. What i have a problem with are the single parents who were grown adults and had unprotected sex and just wanted a baby or really don't care that the baby's father isn't in the picture or just decided that they were not the happiest in their marriage and went looking for the grass is greener. The single fathers who had an affair and left their marriage you should stay away from as well. I think that's why it's so hard to trust a single parent dating. you don't know what their motives are or if they're ok or just careless. agree or disagree?

Dating divorced single parents?
WTF, you left off the one where your wife was the office Ho.
Reply:You can actually make this 'distinction' far less circumstantial by determining a single factor...Does the person still have feelings for the ex? If they do, you'll have issues. If they dont, then how they arrived at 'single' doesnt really matter.





My oldest was from a teen romance and my two younger from my marriage. I dont keep candles lit for either father but we are cordial and they are very involved with the kids, but romantically...nothing. Im sure their wives appreciate it too....not having the psycho 'baby momma' thing to deal with.
Reply:Stay away from people you don't like, why is it necessary to sort people into these categories for your judging pleasure? You have a lot of outdated gender-based preconceptions and stereotypes, but you have plenty of company, so I'm sure you'll mean someone as narrow-minded and holier-than-thou as yourself soon. Just keep riding that high-horse around!
Reply:I think the one thing you fail to point out is that people can change with time. So the the circumstances under which the person had kids, got divorced, etc may not be all that important even as little as a year or 2 later.





My boyfriend is recently divorced with 2 young children. One day his wife announced she was filing for divorce. We're still not entirely sure why. Great guy, absolutely wonderful with his kids, zero reason for me to worry.





His ex-wife, one the other hand, always wants to drop the kids off earlier or later than the agreed upon time. She throws a fit if she has to pick them up after school instead of from their dad's house even though the "official" arrangement as far as the court knows if that he doesn't get to see them at all during the week. If she wants to switch nights one weekend or have him watch the kids for an extended period of time she lies about where she's going and who she'll be with. The list goes on. I wouldn't necessarily warn people away from her because she's divorced with 2 kids, but I would tell them to be a little more cautious given the way she handles her parental duties.





It's not always the circumstances you have to watch out for...you have to consider how the person deals with them.
Reply:This is ridiculous. Can we say judgmental? I am a single mother of 2 boys. I left my marriage after 15 years. Who are you to tell me whether my reasons were good enough? Get some life experience and get back to me. You couldn't walk in my shoes for 10 minutes without having a meltdown. That I guarantee.
Reply:I'm a single Mum. I left my marriage after 26 years. My two older children are independent and my youngest is nine years old. It screws me up in a way because I haven't always got a babysitter, I am not loaded financially and therefore can't go out painting the town red. But you know what? I don't even want to. I think 50 times before bringing someone home, it takes ages for me to be confident before I introduce any guy to my island of tranquility... its sacred. That also can put guys off. They think I am over protective, but there isn't such a word when you have a young child. Stability is foremost. So it may or may never happen but the same for those dating single parents.. we are sometimes in the same predicament as to who is dating us.