What's so great about being single ?

One person told me I should use the name "Single and Free" . Someone else told me I should use the name "Single and Loving It" . What's so attractive about being single and free or someone who likes being single ? Why would someone who likes being single ever get married ? What's to stop someone who liked being single from going for a divorce the minute things get difficult ? Being single is the WORST ! Nobody even gives you a hug when you need it ! The single life is cruel . I'm being wasted on the single life . A single person can't have a decent Thanksgiving or a decent Christmas . I hate being single . (I feel insulted because in forty -- five years, no woman has ever wanted me for a husband . Being single is a curse .

What's so great about being single ?
No responsibilities in life.
Reply:Personally I don't think it is great or even good but I know that it beats being with someone that makes you a miserable wreck all the time!
Reply:It's too bad you feel that way. Personally I do enjoy being single because it means making all my own choices and doing what I want to do when I want to do it. But I fully understand the part about hugs and holidays. What you need to try to do is surround yourself with friends and family as much as possible, esp on holidays. Stop punishing yourself and putting yourself down. The only thing that's a "curse" is your attitude.
Reply:It all depends on the situation. Some people discover that being single is a good thing AFTER having a relationship, usually a bad one. Being single for a while is kind of boring though, I mean being single isn't BAD, but you still want to go out and meet other people. Marriage isn't necessarily the inevitable. Just have fun!
Reply:You can do whatever you want, go where you want and can be completely selfish. Being single isn't a curse - people just don't see it as being 'right' which is madness. Some people don't want to get married or settle down and are much happier on their own. If there is someone out there for you, you will find each other - if you want a woman and haven't found one perhaps you aren't looking in the right places? Bear with it - good luck.
Reply:being single sucks big time. i love to love and be loved and have some one to protect me and look after me and i know that my boyfriend loves to make me feel safe. it's great having someone be so in love with you and you feeling the same about them, i love the strong bond that we have with each other. i'm so glad i have him.
Reply:I was happily divorced about a month ago. My term to make me feel good about being single. No matter how you justify being single, it doesn't make you feel any better inside. My married friends envied my life style no one to answer to, no one to check in with, just free to do whatever you want. I secretly envied them, because they had that soul mate. I can't tell you that you're going to be happy single cause that's a lie, but I can tell you that if you express yourself truthfully without sounding desperate women will come around. They may have children, ex's or previous relationship scars, but there are ladies out there looking to be treated like ladies. Good Luck!
Reply:That's one way to look at it. I accept your view. It's not shared by me though.
Reply:I think you just need to get out more and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Pity parties dont work.()
Reply:Being single is what you make of it. If you have good friends and family Christmas and Thanksgiving should still be good. If you base your self worth and happiness on other people than maybe thats why you hate being single so much. You don't need someone else to be happy. I am single and perfectly content. I like it. But if someone came along that I really liked I would get into a relationship. Just because you like being single doesnt mean you always have to be or always will be. You need to enjoy it and take some time out for yourself. Not wallow in it and see it as a negative thing. Women like confidence. You seem to be lacking that if you say no womean has ever wanted you as a husband. Try loving yourself and gain some confidence.
Reply:I guess...


1. You dont have to tell anyone where you're going all the time.


2. You dont have to ask for permission (if it's ok w/ them or w/ever)


3. You get to hang out w/ friends a lot more (sometimes when you're a relationship you tend to ditch those good 'ol pals)


4. You wont be cheating (therefor you wont have the guilt)


But I do agree with you being in a relationship is a lot better than being single. You always need that someone there to have you're back when you need them the most.


I wish you the best of luck finding your mate!!
Reply:LOL you're dead wrong.





There are some of us men who aren't needy and don't need hugs left and right but still get them from female friends. What's so great about single? You don't have to compromise. You can do whatever you want when you want it. You can(if you choose to) sleep around with many many many women.





Now I'm not saying that having a gf/wife is bad. It's not. But there are things you can do when single that you can't do when u're married. That's all.





You should lighten up and see the brighter side of all this.
Reply:single is beautiful,you enjoy your freedom.just be yourself and dont expect anything from anyone.Being single is the best.
Reply:It is fun to be single because you do not have to take crap from anyboy and you only have to listen to yourself and you wont get nagged at by a wife or anything!
Reply:I'm so sorry you feel that way. Sometimes I feel that way too, I'm 42 years old and have been divorced for 5 years and I wonder if I'm ever going to find a man who loves me. However, then I realize that I like sitting around burping and farting and also spending my money the way I want to spend it, and basically just being independent. But, I know that's no consolation.
Reply:Sorry that you have allowed the single life to be a curse to you. BUT I am loving IT. Single life means NO commitments, NO drama, NO bullshit. I am a free bird and can see and do what I want, when I want and for as long as I want. I was married and also in long relationships and nothing compares to the single life. I can not imagine what a man would have to bring to the table for me to commit. I LOVE the single life.
Reply:You can eat what you want go anywhere you want to . Have as many friends as you want. Be anything you want to be with out having the responsibilites that come w/ marriage.
Reply:I'm with you, being single sucks. Especially around the holidays. We just got through 3 of the toughest ones and now along comes Valentine's Day. Its brutal.
Reply:Sorry I was blown away with your LOOOOOOOONNG paragraph with added questions, Ya lost me. Could you repeat that, please. PS do not email me this. Thank you.
Reply:Hold on, take it easy.. there a lot of good things on being single and with having someone, usually everyone just likes to complain what ever their romantic situation.





When I have been single (as no one anywhere) I have enjoyed it cause I can do anything I fancy without any further responsability, Ive studied the things I want, travelled by myself or with my friends, went out, being in differente societies and charities, etc.





Yes sometimes it gets awfull when you realize everyone has someone and you are by yourself, specially cause you realize that proffesionally and everything is great in life but you are always having diner alone..





When I thought it had been enough of that feeling I decided to join on match and it did worked pretty well ;) seriously dont get so frustrated nor stressed about it, or youll find no one.
Reply:Yeah





But try telling that to a man who has been married for thirty years and he will tell you different
Reply:Single seems great when you're with someone - and not so great when you're not. It's ok for a while, but when things go thru a dry spell - it's not the best.
Reply:I feel you I really do, I just got out of a 10 year relationship and it hurts, but think about the good stuff. Like getting that feeling in the pit of your stomach when you first meet someone or that unbelievable tingly feeling you get when you kiss someone for the first time.