i have been married for 7 mons and my husband has a 8yr old son with his ex wife.i have really pissed her off can u tell me what i should do?
1. i went to a parent/teacher conference with my husband.she got pissed as she feels i have no right to go as hes not my son. plus she feels she should be the one to go with my husband not me.she had to go alone.
2.she gets pissed if my husband has to work late and leaves their son with me.if my husband is not home their son is to go home to her not stay with me.
they have been divorced for over 5yrs but she seems to still cling to my husband(shes still single)single moms can you tell me why she hates me so much and goes out of her way to make my life difficult?what do you think as single moms should i do?
Single moms can you help this step mom out? have i over stepped my bounties?
i think it is more important what your step son thinks about you and less important what she thinks. Though, it is in the best interest of the child if you can all be civil. You, your husband, and the ex should all sit down and talk about what is best for him. If you really care about the little boy you should be involved in the things he does, but so should his mother. Why can't all three of you go to the teacher confrence? The only thing better that two parents that love you....is three.
Reply:I am married and i think she would ike to have her cake and eat it two if you know what i mean. hey, if you think you can deal or trust him but i doubt it. Have a long talk with him. you dn't have to deal with the kid then or whatever but you need to know where the man sits and why. he could be doing you over and you dont' even know it.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Single forever!!?
I have only been with one guy in my life. i was with him for 4 years !! I left him ;been single for a year now ; I decided to be single forever,because ever time i meet a guy there has to be somthing wrong ... What do you guys think could i make it my whole life single ?? oh i am 20 years old ..
Single forever!!?
You have such a long way to go, but I have been there and I am actually single myself and it has been about 3 years. I thought I would stay single forever, but I highly doubt it. I didn't really mind be single too much, but now that I'm 31 years old...it sort of gets kind of old...I'm not looking for anyone right now...but I wouldn't mind getting to know someone special either...Keep your head up and just don't think too much about and you'll be fine...single or taken...as long as you feel good about yourself, that's all that matters!!
Reply:you have plenty of time left just give it some time
Single forever!!?
You have such a long way to go, but I have been there and I am actually single myself and it has been about 3 years. I thought I would stay single forever, but I highly doubt it. I didn't really mind be single too much, but now that I'm 31 years old...it sort of gets kind of old...I'm not looking for anyone right now...but I wouldn't mind getting to know someone special either...Keep your head up and just don't think too much about and you'll be fine...single or taken...as long as you feel good about yourself, that's all that matters!!
Reply:you have plenty of time left just give it some time
Single during Christmas time...?
What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?
Single during Christmas time...?
I don't think jealousy is the right word, they just aren't open to the idea. I have a friend who is getting married this march and still plans on living with her parents afterwards. Many people find that strange but who the hell cares. She and her fiance love her parents and they all get along really well. True you have a different situation but you should still remember that if they judge you so quickly then they truely don't understand.
As for the girlfriend thing- don't even worry about it. I'm 21 and I've never had a serious relationship. I just figure the right guy will come along one day... hopefully
Reply:Are you serious? Sorry man, but that is sort of wierd.
You're almost 30 and have yet to take on any of the responsibility of independence. Are you planning on living with your parents your whole life? I mean cmon.
Anyone can choose to live with their parents their whole life, but that is the easy way. If you don't want to face reality, fine. But you seriously need to move out man. I dunno what else to say.
Reply:It appears that your final question (in your overall question) is
THE ANSWER
that I would propose -
the core of it 'rings' true. . .
Happy Holidays . . .!!!
with yourself -
and 'yours' . . . truly!
If 'it' works? don't 'fix' it!!!!
Reply:i don't know but i think it's cute that you've never had a girlfriend...
Single during Christmas time...?
I don't think jealousy is the right word, they just aren't open to the idea. I have a friend who is getting married this march and still plans on living with her parents afterwards. Many people find that strange but who the hell cares. She and her fiance love her parents and they all get along really well. True you have a different situation but you should still remember that if they judge you so quickly then they truely don't understand.
As for the girlfriend thing- don't even worry about it. I'm 21 and I've never had a serious relationship. I just figure the right guy will come along one day... hopefully
Reply:Are you serious? Sorry man, but that is sort of wierd.
You're almost 30 and have yet to take on any of the responsibility of independence. Are you planning on living with your parents your whole life? I mean cmon.
Anyone can choose to live with their parents their whole life, but that is the easy way. If you don't want to face reality, fine. But you seriously need to move out man. I dunno what else to say.
Reply:It appears that your final question (in your overall question) is
THE ANSWER
that I would propose -
the core of it 'rings' true. . .
Happy Holidays . . .!!!
with yourself -
and 'yours' . . . truly!
If 'it' works? don't 'fix' it!!!!
Reply:i don't know but i think it's cute that you've never had a girlfriend...
Why are single people treated so poorly?
I really think single people including widowed and divorced people are in generally completely excluded from society. People are noticibly uncomfortable around them, and since I lost my wife, nobody even invites me anywhere and I don't think I should go and invite myself to spend time with someone's family.. And I went to many people's homes before she died. It's like everyone tells me to go find someone else. I've heard of many situations where a man loses his wife, and nobody spoke to him again until he was remarried. it's just plain wrong. Everyone just focuses on how busy they are. It doesn't take that much to include someone in your busy life. You can go "we're going to Walmart " want to come along? it's that easy. But instead single people are treated like they are garbage. In every way since my wife's death people have treated me like I am a piece of trash , and these same people called my house weekly.
Why are single people treated so poorly?
I think widowed and divorced people do have problems caused by the friends not keeping in touch.
I think that people do this not out of malice, but out of ignorance. They probably knew you as a couple and are afraid of the awkward feelings that the loss of the other person brings.
I understand that it can be difficult, but it sounds like you just have to find as many new friends as you can.
Reply:Most of the time the reason single people are excluded in such a manner is because most of the world is uncomfortable with dealing with death or divorce because it is a melancholy subject. Many couples dont want to drudge up feelings of despair or anger in the single party because they wont know how to act or what to say. Its not that single people are treated poorly, its just in certain situations, most of the population isnt emotionally intelligent enough to deal with it.
Reply:Some how I do not see that. There are far more single people these days than married so this may be a bit difficult. Perhaps they are uncomfortable with you because they have a hard time handling death and are unsure what to say. OR perhaps your own attitude is turning people away. Larger cities are more accommodating to singles as well so your geographic area may be influencing the society and their attitude as well.
Reply:The men may be insecure with you being around their wives. Nothing personal it's just that you are available. The wives are not going to entertain you for this reason also because they do not want to hear their husbands rant and rave over how they gave you a glass of water first, or how they laughed too long at your jokes. It is crazy but true. Join a singles group or a coffee house club. That way you can meet nice people and get out of the house. I hope this helps.
Reply:Why don't YOU take the initiative and invite someone to Walmart instead of waiting for an invitation?
It sounds like you are waiting for the phone to ring or someone to knock on the door.... you make the calls and start ringing doorbells... let your friends know you're ok.
Reply:As a single person, people get all bent out of shape when they can't get ahold of me. I'm busy. I have my own life to live. Sooner or later I'll catch up to them.
Reply:Greatest commercial ever! This will help anyone feelin' down! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VafGNMcJ...
Reply:All it shows is that you had some pretty fake "friends" to begin with. But I agree with your overall point is that "family" people avoid people who are not in a relationship. I don't know exactly why it is happening, but it is a fact. In my case, it happens because wives and such tend to be extremely insecure when their significant others are in my presence knowing that I am single. (I am not single; my fiance is away for a very long time and I am waiting for him). But I don't consider them my friends anyway; they are just acquaintances that happen to be in my life. I have few very good true friends that are always by my side and on my side no matter what my relationship status is. I would say it all depends on the kind of people you consider to be your friends. But I agree, you will be more excluded from the society and its activities as long as you are single. It's just a fact of life.
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss. To be honest and to not sugar coat I don't believe what you say is to be true. I witnessed very close loves ones to me go through what you are explaining. You will have people that will maybe drift out of your life. To be clear they probably are mourning your loss like you. It affects couples to lose part of couple they did so much with. I'm a big believer that in order to have a life you have to plan your own party. You can't just sit back and look at every person that doesn't call you. Overall people don't do THAT much to warrant calling people all the time. They get busy working 5 - 6 day weeks and have 1 -2 days to rest and maybe get together with others but not always. So if your looking to do something. Make a plan. This goes for singles, widows, married couples that want to go out with friends for a change. I'm sure you are a good person, so don't take it so personally. Plus, I've never been asked to Walmart or on any errand for that matter for just company sake. Pick up the phone and put some things on your calendar so you have some things to look forward too!
Hope it works out.
Reply:It is extremely hard for widowed and divorced people-men or women. In a divorce the friends are usually torn, either his or hers. But with death people are normally uncomfortable-they don't know what to say or do.
Its very hard getting out and meeting new people. Where I live there are Senior Centers, Retired Senior Volunteer Programs, %26amp; Council on the Aging that help others get back into society and meeting new people.
Even younger divorced people can volunteer at different programs around their cities in order to meet people.
There have been men %26amp; women that have found each other through these programs and have since become very happy outgoing people.
As for people treating you like trash--have you called any of them, have you invited them into your home? Reach out, its hard, but I know you can do it. Pick up the phone and say "Hey Bob, I was going to throw some burgers on the grill would you and Mary and the kids join me." You will be surprised at the results.
Good luck and have fun and enjoy life again.
Reply:Single people as a whole aren't treated poorly, there're more single people in the world than there are married people ,however I do believe what you're telling me to be true in some situation , you just need to find out why people are treating you differently now, we all have reasons for what we do and sometimes they're good reasons and sometimes they're bad reasons , I would imagine there be at least a thousand reasons for why people do one thing , did you and your wife have any problems before ? did you treat your wife okay when she was alive ? did your friends like you and your wife equally ? are they blaming you for why she died ? answer some of these questions and think up any other questions you can come up with , If all answers okay , then maybe you're just too hard on yourself , maybe it's just you who's thinking they don't wanna do this and they don't like that , maybe they try to avoid seeing you in sorrow , you know it hurts some people to see another friend in sorrow , maybe you're too good looking and they're just looking out for their wives , and if that's the case , relax and take some time off , meet new women and you'll see , they'll be calling you back. hey don't be hard on yourself , keep on living.
horse teeth
Why are single people treated so poorly?
I think widowed and divorced people do have problems caused by the friends not keeping in touch.
I think that people do this not out of malice, but out of ignorance. They probably knew you as a couple and are afraid of the awkward feelings that the loss of the other person brings.
I understand that it can be difficult, but it sounds like you just have to find as many new friends as you can.
Reply:Most of the time the reason single people are excluded in such a manner is because most of the world is uncomfortable with dealing with death or divorce because it is a melancholy subject. Many couples dont want to drudge up feelings of despair or anger in the single party because they wont know how to act or what to say. Its not that single people are treated poorly, its just in certain situations, most of the population isnt emotionally intelligent enough to deal with it.
Reply:Some how I do not see that. There are far more single people these days than married so this may be a bit difficult. Perhaps they are uncomfortable with you because they have a hard time handling death and are unsure what to say. OR perhaps your own attitude is turning people away. Larger cities are more accommodating to singles as well so your geographic area may be influencing the society and their attitude as well.
Reply:The men may be insecure with you being around their wives. Nothing personal it's just that you are available. The wives are not going to entertain you for this reason also because they do not want to hear their husbands rant and rave over how they gave you a glass of water first, or how they laughed too long at your jokes. It is crazy but true. Join a singles group or a coffee house club. That way you can meet nice people and get out of the house. I hope this helps.
Reply:Why don't YOU take the initiative and invite someone to Walmart instead of waiting for an invitation?
It sounds like you are waiting for the phone to ring or someone to knock on the door.... you make the calls and start ringing doorbells... let your friends know you're ok.
Reply:As a single person, people get all bent out of shape when they can't get ahold of me. I'm busy. I have my own life to live. Sooner or later I'll catch up to them.
Reply:Greatest commercial ever! This will help anyone feelin' down! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VafGNMcJ...
Reply:All it shows is that you had some pretty fake "friends" to begin with. But I agree with your overall point is that "family" people avoid people who are not in a relationship. I don't know exactly why it is happening, but it is a fact. In my case, it happens because wives and such tend to be extremely insecure when their significant others are in my presence knowing that I am single. (I am not single; my fiance is away for a very long time and I am waiting for him). But I don't consider them my friends anyway; they are just acquaintances that happen to be in my life. I have few very good true friends that are always by my side and on my side no matter what my relationship status is. I would say it all depends on the kind of people you consider to be your friends. But I agree, you will be more excluded from the society and its activities as long as you are single. It's just a fact of life.
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss. To be honest and to not sugar coat I don't believe what you say is to be true. I witnessed very close loves ones to me go through what you are explaining. You will have people that will maybe drift out of your life. To be clear they probably are mourning your loss like you. It affects couples to lose part of couple they did so much with. I'm a big believer that in order to have a life you have to plan your own party. You can't just sit back and look at every person that doesn't call you. Overall people don't do THAT much to warrant calling people all the time. They get busy working 5 - 6 day weeks and have 1 -2 days to rest and maybe get together with others but not always. So if your looking to do something. Make a plan. This goes for singles, widows, married couples that want to go out with friends for a change. I'm sure you are a good person, so don't take it so personally. Plus, I've never been asked to Walmart or on any errand for that matter for just company sake. Pick up the phone and put some things on your calendar so you have some things to look forward too!
Hope it works out.
Reply:It is extremely hard for widowed and divorced people-men or women. In a divorce the friends are usually torn, either his or hers. But with death people are normally uncomfortable-they don't know what to say or do.
Its very hard getting out and meeting new people. Where I live there are Senior Centers, Retired Senior Volunteer Programs, %26amp; Council on the Aging that help others get back into society and meeting new people.
Even younger divorced people can volunteer at different programs around their cities in order to meet people.
There have been men %26amp; women that have found each other through these programs and have since become very happy outgoing people.
As for people treating you like trash--have you called any of them, have you invited them into your home? Reach out, its hard, but I know you can do it. Pick up the phone and say "Hey Bob, I was going to throw some burgers on the grill would you and Mary and the kids join me." You will be surprised at the results.
Good luck and have fun and enjoy life again.
Reply:Single people as a whole aren't treated poorly, there're more single people in the world than there are married people ,however I do believe what you're telling me to be true in some situation , you just need to find out why people are treating you differently now, we all have reasons for what we do and sometimes they're good reasons and sometimes they're bad reasons , I would imagine there be at least a thousand reasons for why people do one thing , did you and your wife have any problems before ? did you treat your wife okay when she was alive ? did your friends like you and your wife equally ? are they blaming you for why she died ? answer some of these questions and think up any other questions you can come up with , If all answers okay , then maybe you're just too hard on yourself , maybe it's just you who's thinking they don't wanna do this and they don't like that , maybe they try to avoid seeing you in sorrow , you know it hurts some people to see another friend in sorrow , maybe you're too good looking and they're just looking out for their wives , and if that's the case , relax and take some time off , meet new women and you'll see , they'll be calling you back. hey don't be hard on yourself , keep on living.
horse teeth
Single dad with kids?
I am single dad with 3 kids(live with me) single women with no kids seem to back away once I tell them is there another way to apporach it or should I just look to date single moms who are in the same situation I am in because they understand
Single dad with kids?
Be honest with them, nothing else you can do. Why does it have to be a single women. A single women most likely does not want all your baggage. So you may have to stop the single ladies and date some ladies who as some baggage also. Sorry, but single ones what their own children, not yours.
Reply:There isn't another way to approach it.. you have a great deal of responsibility on your life, you have three little lives depending on you, and any woman you choose to spend time with should be special and caring enough to not only accept your situation, but embrace it. Single moms are not necessarily the only ones that will (in fact, some of them will back away from you as well), so all you can do is find those special people and get to know them. And ones that back away, well, do you want them in your kids' life anyway? (I'm a single mom, btw, and have had relationships with guys without kids, so it is possible..) Good luck!
Reply:If certain women back away from the fact that you have kids,,,then they arent meant for you in the first place. There is some women out there who would love you AND YOUR KIDS. my man came into my house knowing i have a son,,,and takes care of the both of us very well. You will find a women that will love the chance to be with you and your kids...Maybe yes it would be better for you to meet single moms that do understand. You are a great dad thats obvious...someone will be lucky to have you.
Reply:lie to them and then be honest example im the oldest of four
Reply:If your looking for a soul mate than every person that you tell, should accept you and be happy to be with you.
If ur looking for a little poontang, than leave the kids with a relative/babysitter, and rock the cazba!
Reply:some women probably feel like there will be drama with them and ur ex or maybe even with your kids. maybe some feel that it's a huge commitment...they view ur kids as "extra baggage"... im sure there are women out there who isnt too concern about that. on the other hand.. i feel that shouldn't matter whether you have kids or not. If they truly like you as a person..they should learn how to accept that, because your kids is apart of your life too.if they cant love ur kids like they love you...kick em' to the curb. It varies from woman to woman.. goodluck
Reply:Welcome to the club pardner. I suffered for a long time. MR. Mom is a scary fellow to most single women w/o c. Mainly because they have not had 1 of their own and u got 3. To u and me it may not be a big deal but it scares the Bloody Hell out of the fairer sex. E-Harmony worked 4 me. I wouldn't trade my soul mate 4 all the tea in china. Good Luck!
Reply:Be honest. Always. Most single women without children just don't want to get involved with a guy who has children. Try women who are in the same situation as you. They can relate to you better. Have you tried Parents Without Partners, or Catholic singles or something along those lines?
Reply:I had the same situation in 1988 minus I child. I was not looking, but I met a beautiful lady with 2 children of her own, and now the children are grown and we have 5 beautiful grand kids. I myself was never good at trying to find the right person for me, but when I was not looking the most wonderful thing just happened. Good Luck to you my friend
Reply:Maybe the women you are looking for either don't want kids right now or don't want kids at all. I would definitely advise to keep your eyes open for single moms....school functions are PERFECT for this. It brings the children and the single parents together.
Good luck
Reply:hang in there dude.....there is always a place in some woman's heart for a man who loves his children. If you can handle the lives of 3 children, you are bound to find some lady that will see your upsides....if they balk at the children, then you don't want her anyway...I'd assume the kids are the most important thing to you...not just having a woman for the sake of having a woman...wait for the right one...she's out there somewhere
Reply:good luck, find women that have kids too.
Reply:Nope. What are you going to do...lie?! You have kids...that is your reality.
Honestly, you just have to meet women and whatever happens happens. Don't narrow your options ON PURPOSE.
Reply:It's pretty tough isn't it? No way to get through it but to go through it and keep looking. My cousin did well on eharmony.
Reply:no, u just havent found miss right,keep lookn, she is under your noise, i bet u.
Reply:all I have to say is you are rare man and any woman would be lucky to have you.... hang in there !
Reply:You want to be with someone who understands and compliments you-Some women may be scared but those women are just missing out on what a great guy you are. A more mature woman would think that it was great that you are stepping up and being a dad. Be patient-Good luck
Reply:Many years ago I ended up with my three sons, a single parent. They attended three different schools in the same town. At first I dedicated all I had to taking care of them. Two were into sports, the oldest was into music. When I began trying to date again, it sort of happened by chance. You have to be upfront with the ladies because with three boys it would be impossible to date. I finally met someone that was a single parent (through work, a customer), we included all the kids. They appreciated it. We told them for the time being we were not going to get married or live together. After about two years, she was transferred across the country. We still stay in touch.
Reply:the reason why single woman with no kids dont want men with three or how many ever kids is because they dont want kids.. so i would reccomend you go with the woman with kids. Unless you find a woman with no kids that wants kids..lol
Reply:be honest, always. the right woman will stay.
Reply:I'm single, with no kids. Yet. I'd date a man with kids - but only on one condition: He'd be open to having more.
Part of the reason a lot of women shy away from men with kids is that most times those men don't want more kids - with them. I'm here to tell you that I know I want my own. Doesn't mean I couldn't love another woman's children should I fall in love with their father - just means that I want to have my own too.
That said - there are women out there that don't care either way. I have a very good friend who married a man with a 6 year old 10 years ago - she's a better mother to the girl than her real mother. They never had a child together, but she looks at this girl as if she were her own flesh and blood.
They're out there - but you need to always be honest with what you have and what you want. If you know that you don't want more kids - be HONEST. Don't say "maybe" or "not sure". That right there will get you ignored by both types of women.
Reply:honey, your women without children days are over....it has been the same for me and guysm if they dont have kids, then pretty much they dont want kids......so look for women with children is my advice
Reply:Its not worth it, Just be a dad, women will only screw things up between you and your kids... Trust me... I too am a single father with full custody... I fought for this in court - why would i ever allow another person to come between me and my kids
Reply:It doesn't seem like women with kids have trouble getting men without kids - so it shouldn't be any different for men. Maybe it's the kind of girl your going after. Don't sugar coat the facts - be upfront about your situation. It's very noble (especially NOWADAYS) for a man to take charge of his childrens' lives. Any woman who can't see the sacrifice you are making and be impressed by it isn't worth the time. And don't settle - If you WANT a woman with no other children - then get one. You never know who you'll run into .. perhaps a woman who can't have children of your own and would jump at the chance to love yours : ) Children are a gift - not a crutch ...
From: A Happy Mother of 3 : )
Reply:I would think that most women would be attracted to a man who is raising his own kids. It's not often you see someone so dedicated. A single mother might have an easier time understanding because they've been in that situation as well. The only thing you can do is be honest, and hope you meet someone who doesn't hold it against you.
Reply:There are plenty of single women who don't have kids out there who will be completely comfortable with your situation. It just takes finding that special someone. It may not be your kids that are getting in the way; it's more likely it's you. I'm sure you don't want to hear that, but look more in to what you are doing. If you're talking about them constantly, then that could be a turn off for someone who don't have kids. They can't relate. Do fun things on dates %26amp; let it be all about the woman you're with. Don't talk about all the material things you have or had in your life. Women get turned off hearing those things. Good luck!
Single dad with kids?
Be honest with them, nothing else you can do. Why does it have to be a single women. A single women most likely does not want all your baggage. So you may have to stop the single ladies and date some ladies who as some baggage also. Sorry, but single ones what their own children, not yours.
Reply:There isn't another way to approach it.. you have a great deal of responsibility on your life, you have three little lives depending on you, and any woman you choose to spend time with should be special and caring enough to not only accept your situation, but embrace it. Single moms are not necessarily the only ones that will (in fact, some of them will back away from you as well), so all you can do is find those special people and get to know them. And ones that back away, well, do you want them in your kids' life anyway? (I'm a single mom, btw, and have had relationships with guys without kids, so it is possible..) Good luck!
Reply:If certain women back away from the fact that you have kids,,,then they arent meant for you in the first place. There is some women out there who would love you AND YOUR KIDS. my man came into my house knowing i have a son,,,and takes care of the both of us very well. You will find a women that will love the chance to be with you and your kids...Maybe yes it would be better for you to meet single moms that do understand. You are a great dad thats obvious...someone will be lucky to have you.
Reply:lie to them and then be honest example im the oldest of four
Reply:If your looking for a soul mate than every person that you tell, should accept you and be happy to be with you.
If ur looking for a little poontang, than leave the kids with a relative/babysitter, and rock the cazba!
Reply:some women probably feel like there will be drama with them and ur ex or maybe even with your kids. maybe some feel that it's a huge commitment...they view ur kids as "extra baggage"... im sure there are women out there who isnt too concern about that. on the other hand.. i feel that shouldn't matter whether you have kids or not. If they truly like you as a person..they should learn how to accept that, because your kids is apart of your life too.if they cant love ur kids like they love you...kick em' to the curb. It varies from woman to woman.. goodluck
Reply:Welcome to the club pardner. I suffered for a long time. MR. Mom is a scary fellow to most single women w/o c. Mainly because they have not had 1 of their own and u got 3. To u and me it may not be a big deal but it scares the Bloody Hell out of the fairer sex. E-Harmony worked 4 me. I wouldn't trade my soul mate 4 all the tea in china. Good Luck!
Reply:Be honest. Always. Most single women without children just don't want to get involved with a guy who has children. Try women who are in the same situation as you. They can relate to you better. Have you tried Parents Without Partners, or Catholic singles or something along those lines?
Reply:I had the same situation in 1988 minus I child. I was not looking, but I met a beautiful lady with 2 children of her own, and now the children are grown and we have 5 beautiful grand kids. I myself was never good at trying to find the right person for me, but when I was not looking the most wonderful thing just happened. Good Luck to you my friend
Reply:Maybe the women you are looking for either don't want kids right now or don't want kids at all. I would definitely advise to keep your eyes open for single moms....school functions are PERFECT for this. It brings the children and the single parents together.
Good luck
Reply:hang in there dude.....there is always a place in some woman's heart for a man who loves his children. If you can handle the lives of 3 children, you are bound to find some lady that will see your upsides....if they balk at the children, then you don't want her anyway...I'd assume the kids are the most important thing to you...not just having a woman for the sake of having a woman...wait for the right one...she's out there somewhere
Reply:good luck, find women that have kids too.
Reply:Nope. What are you going to do...lie?! You have kids...that is your reality.
Honestly, you just have to meet women and whatever happens happens. Don't narrow your options ON PURPOSE.
Reply:It's pretty tough isn't it? No way to get through it but to go through it and keep looking. My cousin did well on eharmony.
Reply:no, u just havent found miss right,keep lookn, she is under your noise, i bet u.
Reply:all I have to say is you are rare man and any woman would be lucky to have you.... hang in there !
Reply:You want to be with someone who understands and compliments you-Some women may be scared but those women are just missing out on what a great guy you are. A more mature woman would think that it was great that you are stepping up and being a dad. Be patient-Good luck
Reply:Many years ago I ended up with my three sons, a single parent. They attended three different schools in the same town. At first I dedicated all I had to taking care of them. Two were into sports, the oldest was into music. When I began trying to date again, it sort of happened by chance. You have to be upfront with the ladies because with three boys it would be impossible to date. I finally met someone that was a single parent (through work, a customer), we included all the kids. They appreciated it. We told them for the time being we were not going to get married or live together. After about two years, she was transferred across the country. We still stay in touch.
Reply:the reason why single woman with no kids dont want men with three or how many ever kids is because they dont want kids.. so i would reccomend you go with the woman with kids. Unless you find a woman with no kids that wants kids..lol
Reply:be honest, always. the right woman will stay.
Reply:I'm single, with no kids. Yet. I'd date a man with kids - but only on one condition: He'd be open to having more.
Part of the reason a lot of women shy away from men with kids is that most times those men don't want more kids - with them. I'm here to tell you that I know I want my own. Doesn't mean I couldn't love another woman's children should I fall in love with their father - just means that I want to have my own too.
That said - there are women out there that don't care either way. I have a very good friend who married a man with a 6 year old 10 years ago - she's a better mother to the girl than her real mother. They never had a child together, but she looks at this girl as if she were her own flesh and blood.
They're out there - but you need to always be honest with what you have and what you want. If you know that you don't want more kids - be HONEST. Don't say "maybe" or "not sure". That right there will get you ignored by both types of women.
Reply:honey, your women without children days are over....it has been the same for me and guysm if they dont have kids, then pretty much they dont want kids......so look for women with children is my advice
Reply:Its not worth it, Just be a dad, women will only screw things up between you and your kids... Trust me... I too am a single father with full custody... I fought for this in court - why would i ever allow another person to come between me and my kids
Reply:It doesn't seem like women with kids have trouble getting men without kids - so it shouldn't be any different for men. Maybe it's the kind of girl your going after. Don't sugar coat the facts - be upfront about your situation. It's very noble (especially NOWADAYS) for a man to take charge of his childrens' lives. Any woman who can't see the sacrifice you are making and be impressed by it isn't worth the time. And don't settle - If you WANT a woman with no other children - then get one. You never know who you'll run into .. perhaps a woman who can't have children of your own and would jump at the chance to love yours : ) Children are a gift - not a crutch ...
From: A Happy Mother of 3 : )
Reply:I would think that most women would be attracted to a man who is raising his own kids. It's not often you see someone so dedicated. A single mother might have an easier time understanding because they've been in that situation as well. The only thing you can do is be honest, and hope you meet someone who doesn't hold it against you.
Reply:There are plenty of single women who don't have kids out there who will be completely comfortable with your situation. It just takes finding that special someone. It may not be your kids that are getting in the way; it's more likely it's you. I'm sure you don't want to hear that, but look more in to what you are doing. If you're talking about them constantly, then that could be a turn off for someone who don't have kids. They can't relate. Do fun things on dates %26amp; let it be all about the woman you're with. Don't talk about all the material things you have or had in your life. Women get turned off hearing those things. Good luck!
Single parent household or had both parents growing up?
I had a single parent, married, single parent, married again, single parent, married again.
I still turned out not too crazy.
Single parent household or had both parents growing up?
i had parents, single, parents, single
and i didn't turn out too crazy either...lol
Reply:both
Reply:Both parents.
Reply:single jus my mom n us three kids
Reply:both parents
Reply:both.
Reply:I was born in 1960 so the norm then was two parents even if they hated each other.
My parents didn't hate each other, thank God, but I did end up crazy. LOL
Reply:I had both parents
Reply:both parents, although i have to say that two is not always better than one.
Reply:The same but dunno if i will marry again like you
Reply:My parents were together until I was 11, then they split up. Mom didn't even date for years, until I was 16. She's now married to that guy, whom I HATE with a passion! I'm just glad she waited until I was on my own to marry him! He's 15 years older than her and treats her poorly, and is just a fat as* grumpy old bastard!
Reply:i had both for the most part of my life
I still turned out not too crazy.
Single parent household or had both parents growing up?
i had parents, single, parents, single
and i didn't turn out too crazy either...lol
Reply:both
Reply:Both parents.
Reply:single jus my mom n us three kids
Reply:both parents
Reply:both.
Reply:I was born in 1960 so the norm then was two parents even if they hated each other.
My parents didn't hate each other, thank God, but I did end up crazy. LOL
Reply:I had both parents
Reply:both parents, although i have to say that two is not always better than one.
Reply:The same but dunno if i will marry again like you
Reply:My parents were together until I was 11, then they split up. Mom didn't even date for years, until I was 16. She's now married to that guy, whom I HATE with a passion! I'm just glad she waited until I was on my own to marry him! He's 15 years older than her and treats her poorly, and is just a fat as* grumpy old bastard!
Reply:i had both for the most part of my life
SIngle-Sex Schools!!!?
I'm doing a debate and I am AGAINST single-sex schools. I'm almost positive that the opposing team (who supports single-sex schools) is going to say that girls gain confidence at single-sex schools. I wanna say that they'll lose confidence when they're adults, but can't find any evidence!!! PLEASE send some evidence saying that they'll loose their confidence when they're adults because they'll need to deal with the opposite gender. Thanks, that would be sooo helpful!
SIngle-Sex Schools!!!?
This is what I can come up with. The girls can lose confidence as they become older is because females are very critical of other females. Whatever their peers have drilled into them about being unattractive, overweight or underweight and everything else. They also wouldn't have a lot of experience in associating themselves with males due to the fact that they weren't able to be around them on a daily basis while in school. Hope this helps some.
Reply:I went to an all girls school - got to be honest, it was fantastic lol, I did gain a lot of confidence - but as I got older I realised that all my friends who had grown up around boys at school were better able to 'read' the boys and so are more natural and confident around them :-)
SIngle-Sex Schools!!!?
This is what I can come up with. The girls can lose confidence as they become older is because females are very critical of other females. Whatever their peers have drilled into them about being unattractive, overweight or underweight and everything else. They also wouldn't have a lot of experience in associating themselves with males due to the fact that they weren't able to be around them on a daily basis while in school. Hope this helps some.
Reply:I went to an all girls school - got to be honest, it was fantastic lol, I did gain a lot of confidence - but as I got older I realised that all my friends who had grown up around boys at school were better able to 'read' the boys and so are more natural and confident around them :-)
Single Parent Adoption?
I asked a question a little bit ago and someone mention that it would be hard to adopt being a single person. I don't plan on getting married because I don't feel I need a man in my life to start a strong family for myself. Right now I am 21 and work as a paralegal. I make good money, own my own car and house. I have a good family support system and good friends. I also live in Florida. I want to adopt a baby but in about four years when I turn 25. I'm open to international adoption but I have been hearing some countries are closing adoption to singles plus I don't know about the travel that international will require. How hard will it be to adopt here in America opposed to internationally as a single person?
Single Parent Adoption?
Yes, a lot of countries have closed to singles, including China. But it is still possible in certain countries, including Russia and Kazakhstan. International adoption in Eastern European countries is very expensive, involving two trips to the country, and a long stay when you get there.
Here in America, your best option is the foster care system. It should be easy for you to adopt from that avenue, and relatively inexpensive as well. A domestic infant adoption will be extremely difficult, and your chances of being selected by a birthmother are small.
Reply:I would recommend adopting from the country first. If you have your heart set on an international adoption Rwanda is now open for adoption to couples and singles. It's about 1300 round trip from Canada I'm not sure about from the states. It's fairly cheap to stay there as you'll probably stay at the orphanage itself.
Reply:Whether or not you need a man to basically complete you is fairly immaterial when it comes to raising kids. As a 40 year old mom, with five kids, ages 13 to 20, I can tell you that having their dad around was not a matter of completing me as much as it was about having his HELP!!!
While there is much joy in raising kids, (wouldn't trade 'em, can't imagine life without 'em) it is a lot of mudane and unpleasant work as well. When it's 3 AM and junior is up with the croup or spewing vomit across the room, and you have an important meeting the next day, BELIEVE ME it makes a difference to have the other parent there to help you run interference or at least take a shift.
Parenting has been at times the most difficult and trying time of my life. It has tested me to the limits. When your 16 year old son or daughter, looks you in the eye and tells you they aren't coming home when you tell them to, do you really think you will be turning them over your knee or reasoning with them otherwise? Yeah, good luck with that. If nothing else, you need another adult ( preferably the FATHER) to back you up and explain in no uncertain terms what is and is not expected, even if it is the unspoken threat of getting flattened like a pancake if son or daughter uses "that tone" with their mother again.
Last but not least, kids deserve two parents. They deserve to see behavior modeled from more than one influential person in the home. They deserve to see how a relationship between two people works so that they have an idea of how to do that for themselves when they become adults. There's even an advantage where when one parent might have to be the heavy, the other can be the softie.
It's not enough to have a stable job and a good income to raise a child. You need support from someone who has just as much investment and sake in the raising of that kid. It's been done before without, don't get me wrong, but it's less than optimal all the way around.
americal dental
Single Parent Adoption?
Yes, a lot of countries have closed to singles, including China. But it is still possible in certain countries, including Russia and Kazakhstan. International adoption in Eastern European countries is very expensive, involving two trips to the country, and a long stay when you get there.
Here in America, your best option is the foster care system. It should be easy for you to adopt from that avenue, and relatively inexpensive as well. A domestic infant adoption will be extremely difficult, and your chances of being selected by a birthmother are small.
Reply:I would recommend adopting from the country first. If you have your heart set on an international adoption Rwanda is now open for adoption to couples and singles. It's about 1300 round trip from Canada I'm not sure about from the states. It's fairly cheap to stay there as you'll probably stay at the orphanage itself.
Reply:Whether or not you need a man to basically complete you is fairly immaterial when it comes to raising kids. As a 40 year old mom, with five kids, ages 13 to 20, I can tell you that having their dad around was not a matter of completing me as much as it was about having his HELP!!!
While there is much joy in raising kids, (wouldn't trade 'em, can't imagine life without 'em) it is a lot of mudane and unpleasant work as well. When it's 3 AM and junior is up with the croup or spewing vomit across the room, and you have an important meeting the next day, BELIEVE ME it makes a difference to have the other parent there to help you run interference or at least take a shift.
Parenting has been at times the most difficult and trying time of my life. It has tested me to the limits. When your 16 year old son or daughter, looks you in the eye and tells you they aren't coming home when you tell them to, do you really think you will be turning them over your knee or reasoning with them otherwise? Yeah, good luck with that. If nothing else, you need another adult ( preferably the FATHER) to back you up and explain in no uncertain terms what is and is not expected, even if it is the unspoken threat of getting flattened like a pancake if son or daughter uses "that tone" with their mother again.
Last but not least, kids deserve two parents. They deserve to see behavior modeled from more than one influential person in the home. They deserve to see how a relationship between two people works so that they have an idea of how to do that for themselves when they become adults. There's even an advantage where when one parent might have to be the heavy, the other can be the softie.
It's not enough to have a stable job and a good income to raise a child. You need support from someone who has just as much investment and sake in the raising of that kid. It's been done before without, don't get me wrong, but it's less than optimal all the way around.
americal dental
Single point piercings... only people with experience?
My regular body piercer told me that single point piercings are illigal in illinois and are soon to be illegal in all of the US. He does not do more complicated exotic piercings by the way. I have 12 dermal anchors that were inserted by a reptuible and highly experienced piercer in Illinois. I did a lot of research on these piercings before I got them and never read anything about them being illigal anywear (which I would assume would be important info). My question is do any piercers out there know of the legality of single point piercings?? My regular piercer is the kind to bash other people's work though- I kninda hate that about him but he is really good and I thought very trustworthy. BTW- I know single point piercings carry a high rate of infection and rejection so don't tell me not to get them or that they are bad because I already have them, the oldest are a year old and the newest are a month old- I had no complications healing any of the 12.
Single point piercings... only people with experience?
Not to my knowledge. I guess you could call the public health in your area and see if they could direct you to someone who knows for sure! Or just call around to other piercers to see what they know about it!
Honestly I don't see how it can be illegal!
Reply:Ummm, how about you just stop geting dangerous, unsafe piercings and metal rammed through your body? There is a suggestion. All this piercing stuff is SOOO dangerous and so dirty and risky. You need a therapist not a piercer! Why would you want that anyway? Someone has to be mentally wrong with people who want crap like that done. The only normal piercings are ear lobes for WOMEN. What are going to do later in life when you go to college, or want to start a career, or meet a guy/girl or want to have kids? Mature, responsible people can't have things like that. What guy or girl wants a partner with piercings like that? Only other idiots that are pierced I guess...if you don't want better than that ever, I suppose keep getting horrible things done to your body. But ramming dirty metal through you can't ever be good. I wonder the percentage of people who are in the ER right now because they wanted a piercing..I bet is is staggering. Besides that, someday you will have to go to a doctor for something and he notices that he is going to make you take i out anyway. No way a doctor will think that is normal or healthy. My friend's dad is a doctor, he makes all his patients take out their piercings before he will treat them. Find something else to do if you are bored. This is a bit extreme. All this stuff should be outlawed, tattoos also..just as dangerous and risky. Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.
Single point piercings... only people with experience?
Not to my knowledge. I guess you could call the public health in your area and see if they could direct you to someone who knows for sure! Or just call around to other piercers to see what they know about it!
Honestly I don't see how it can be illegal!
Reply:Ummm, how about you just stop geting dangerous, unsafe piercings and metal rammed through your body? There is a suggestion. All this piercing stuff is SOOO dangerous and so dirty and risky. You need a therapist not a piercer! Why would you want that anyway? Someone has to be mentally wrong with people who want crap like that done. The only normal piercings are ear lobes for WOMEN. What are going to do later in life when you go to college, or want to start a career, or meet a guy/girl or want to have kids? Mature, responsible people can't have things like that. What guy or girl wants a partner with piercings like that? Only other idiots that are pierced I guess...if you don't want better than that ever, I suppose keep getting horrible things done to your body. But ramming dirty metal through you can't ever be good. I wonder the percentage of people who are in the ER right now because they wanted a piercing..I bet is is staggering. Besides that, someday you will have to go to a doctor for something and he notices that he is going to make you take i out anyway. No way a doctor will think that is normal or healthy. My friend's dad is a doctor, he makes all his patients take out their piercings before he will treat them. Find something else to do if you are bored. This is a bit extreme. All this stuff should be outlawed, tattoos also..just as dangerous and risky. Sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.
Single and double pole circuits and appliances?
What is the difference between a single pole and double pole circuit breaker?
Say I have a 30 A single pole breaker. So that means that it is providing 30 A of current at 120 V. Power = 3600 W.
If I have a 30 A double pole breaker, what does that mean? Each pole is 30 A, I know, and each pole is at 120 V. So is the power still 3600 W from any one pole?
When a water heater is 240 V, 4500 W maximum, what does this mean?
Does it mean it can only receive 18.5 A of current at 240 V?
So, if a double pole breaker is used, does that mean that it can rate up to 35 A, since it is a 120 V?
Why does a double pole breaker have to be used? What is the difference between single and double pole? Does it have to do with AC?
Single and double pole circuits and appliances?
A double pole breaker is just that. It has 2 poles, one on each leg of the panel. The circuit it feeds will have 240V at whatever amperage the breaker allows. A 30A double pole breaker will have 30amps at 240V, or 7200 watts. A water heater rated at 240V and 4500 W, will draw a MAXIMUM of 18.75 amps. You could run that on a 20 A double pole breaker. (4500W/240V=18.75A)
A double pole is used whenever a device requires 240V. Most large appliances run more efficiently at 240V, such as electric ranges, electric dryers, AC compressors, etc. For AC, there is a single pole breaker that runs the furnace (unless you have electric heat). This supplies the power for the electronics of the furnace, as well as for the fan which moves the air. It also supplies a central humidifier, if one is attached to the furnace. The 240V circuit for the AC, which is often a 2 wire feed (no neutral) supplies the power for the AC compressor outside, not the blower as a previous poster mentioned. I hope this helps clear things up for you.
Reply:Breakers are sized to protect the circuit or wiring. If you want go by the code a wire is sized to 80% of its rating. ie; a 4500 watt water @ 240 V would need a #10 copper wire which is rated at 30 amps: 4500w / 240 = 18.75 X 120% = 22.5 amps. A 20 amp rated wire is no good.
Appliance manufacturers use 240v because they can size down the wiring,controlls and construction of the product and it becomes cheaper to build.
ie, if your water heater was 4500watts @ 120volts = 37.5 amps
They would need larger contuctors,controlls etc.
Reply:Double poles allow the circuits to be tripped simultaneously. Double poles are traditionally used for 240v only.
Reply:Lots of questions...lets see
Double pole breakers are used for 240 volts....it supplies 120 volts on each breaker...but it supplies 15A to 60A on each side....it all depends on what is hooked to it.
Double breakers are more of a safety issue. The poles are connected with a cross bar. That way if one circuit is overloaded...as in a dryer...it will shut off the whole thing instead of letting your dryer run with no heat...or worse....letting the heat stay on with no air flow or turning drum which would soon catch fire.
Your water heater shows no more than 4500 watts....which is safe for whatever breaker is on that line....higher wattage heat elements will only cause breaker to trip off all the time.
A/C units are almost always on double poles...one side runs blower and circuit board...while the other side runs the compressor outside.
Say I have a 30 A single pole breaker. So that means that it is providing 30 A of current at 120 V. Power = 3600 W.
If I have a 30 A double pole breaker, what does that mean? Each pole is 30 A, I know, and each pole is at 120 V. So is the power still 3600 W from any one pole?
When a water heater is 240 V, 4500 W maximum, what does this mean?
Does it mean it can only receive 18.5 A of current at 240 V?
So, if a double pole breaker is used, does that mean that it can rate up to 35 A, since it is a 120 V?
Why does a double pole breaker have to be used? What is the difference between single and double pole? Does it have to do with AC?
Single and double pole circuits and appliances?
A double pole breaker is just that. It has 2 poles, one on each leg of the panel. The circuit it feeds will have 240V at whatever amperage the breaker allows. A 30A double pole breaker will have 30amps at 240V, or 7200 watts. A water heater rated at 240V and 4500 W, will draw a MAXIMUM of 18.75 amps. You could run that on a 20 A double pole breaker. (4500W/240V=18.75A)
A double pole is used whenever a device requires 240V. Most large appliances run more efficiently at 240V, such as electric ranges, electric dryers, AC compressors, etc. For AC, there is a single pole breaker that runs the furnace (unless you have electric heat). This supplies the power for the electronics of the furnace, as well as for the fan which moves the air. It also supplies a central humidifier, if one is attached to the furnace. The 240V circuit for the AC, which is often a 2 wire feed (no neutral) supplies the power for the AC compressor outside, not the blower as a previous poster mentioned. I hope this helps clear things up for you.
Reply:Breakers are sized to protect the circuit or wiring. If you want go by the code a wire is sized to 80% of its rating. ie; a 4500 watt water @ 240 V would need a #10 copper wire which is rated at 30 amps: 4500w / 240 = 18.75 X 120% = 22.5 amps. A 20 amp rated wire is no good.
Appliance manufacturers use 240v because they can size down the wiring,controlls and construction of the product and it becomes cheaper to build.
ie, if your water heater was 4500watts @ 120volts = 37.5 amps
They would need larger contuctors,controlls etc.
Reply:Double poles allow the circuits to be tripped simultaneously. Double poles are traditionally used for 240v only.
Reply:Lots of questions...lets see
Double pole breakers are used for 240 volts....it supplies 120 volts on each breaker...but it supplies 15A to 60A on each side....it all depends on what is hooked to it.
Double breakers are more of a safety issue. The poles are connected with a cross bar. That way if one circuit is overloaded...as in a dryer...it will shut off the whole thing instead of letting your dryer run with no heat...or worse....letting the heat stay on with no air flow or turning drum which would soon catch fire.
Your water heater shows no more than 4500 watts....which is safe for whatever breaker is on that line....higher wattage heat elements will only cause breaker to trip off all the time.
A/C units are almost always on double poles...one side runs blower and circuit board...while the other side runs the compressor outside.
Single Parent Adoption?
I asked a question a little bit ago and someone mention that it would be hard to adopt being a single person. I don't plan on getting married because I don't feel I need a man in my life to start a strong family for myself. Right now I am 21 and work as a paralegal. I make good money, own my own car and house. I have a good family support system and good friends. I also live in Florida. I want to adopt a baby but in about four years when I turn 25. I'm open to international adoption but I have been hearing some countries are closing adoption to singles plus I don't know about the travel that international will require. How hard will it be to adopt here in America opposed to internationally as a single person?
Single Parent Adoption?
Yes, a lot of countries have closed to singles, including China. But it is still possible in certain countries, including Russia and Kazakhstan. International adoption in Eastern European countries is very expensive, involving two trips to the country, and a long stay when you get there.
Here in America, your best option is the foster care system. It should be easy for you to adopt from that avenue, and relatively inexpensive as well. A domestic infant adoption will be extremely difficult, and your chances of being selected by a birthmother are small.
Reply:I would recommend adopting from the country first. If you have your heart set on an international adoption Rwanda is now open for adoption to couples and singles. It's about 1300 round trip from Canada I'm not sure about from the states. It's fairly cheap to stay there as you'll probably stay at the orphanage itself.
Reply:Whether or not you need a man to basically complete you is fairly immaterial when it comes to raising kids. As a 40 year old mom, with five kids, ages 13 to 20, I can tell you that having their dad around was not a matter of completing me as much as it was about having his HELP!!!
While there is much joy in raising kids, (wouldn't trade 'em, can't imagine life without 'em) it is a lot of mudane and unpleasant work as well. When it's 3 AM and junior is up with the croup or spewing vomit across the room, and you have an important meeting the next day, BELIEVE ME it makes a difference to have the other parent there to help you run interference or at least take a shift.
Parenting has been at times the most difficult and trying time of my life. It has tested me to the limits. When your 16 year old son or daughter, looks you in the eye and tells you they aren't coming home when you tell them to, do you really think you will be turning them over your knee or reasoning with them otherwise? Yeah, good luck with that. If nothing else, you need another adult ( preferably the FATHER) to back you up and explain in no uncertain terms what is and is not expected, even if it is the unspoken threat of getting flattened like a pancake if son or daughter uses "that tone" with their mother again.
Last but not least, kids deserve two parents. They deserve to see behavior modeled from more than one influential person in the home. They deserve to see how a relationship between two people works so that they have an idea of how to do that for themselves when they become adults. There's even an advantage where when one parent might have to be the heavy, the other can be the softie.
It's not enough to have a stable job and a good income to raise a child. You need support from someone who has just as much investment and sake in the raising of that kid. It's been done before without, don't get me wrong, but it's less than optimal all the way around.
Single Parent Adoption?
Yes, a lot of countries have closed to singles, including China. But it is still possible in certain countries, including Russia and Kazakhstan. International adoption in Eastern European countries is very expensive, involving two trips to the country, and a long stay when you get there.
Here in America, your best option is the foster care system. It should be easy for you to adopt from that avenue, and relatively inexpensive as well. A domestic infant adoption will be extremely difficult, and your chances of being selected by a birthmother are small.
Reply:I would recommend adopting from the country first. If you have your heart set on an international adoption Rwanda is now open for adoption to couples and singles. It's about 1300 round trip from Canada I'm not sure about from the states. It's fairly cheap to stay there as you'll probably stay at the orphanage itself.
Reply:Whether or not you need a man to basically complete you is fairly immaterial when it comes to raising kids. As a 40 year old mom, with five kids, ages 13 to 20, I can tell you that having their dad around was not a matter of completing me as much as it was about having his HELP!!!
While there is much joy in raising kids, (wouldn't trade 'em, can't imagine life without 'em) it is a lot of mudane and unpleasant work as well. When it's 3 AM and junior is up with the croup or spewing vomit across the room, and you have an important meeting the next day, BELIEVE ME it makes a difference to have the other parent there to help you run interference or at least take a shift.
Parenting has been at times the most difficult and trying time of my life. It has tested me to the limits. When your 16 year old son or daughter, looks you in the eye and tells you they aren't coming home when you tell them to, do you really think you will be turning them over your knee or reasoning with them otherwise? Yeah, good luck with that. If nothing else, you need another adult ( preferably the FATHER) to back you up and explain in no uncertain terms what is and is not expected, even if it is the unspoken threat of getting flattened like a pancake if son or daughter uses "that tone" with their mother again.
Last but not least, kids deserve two parents. They deserve to see behavior modeled from more than one influential person in the home. They deserve to see how a relationship between two people works so that they have an idea of how to do that for themselves when they become adults. There's even an advantage where when one parent might have to be the heavy, the other can be the softie.
It's not enough to have a stable job and a good income to raise a child. You need support from someone who has just as much investment and sake in the raising of that kid. It's been done before without, don't get me wrong, but it's less than optimal all the way around.
Single mothers?
Does anyone else have a problem with single mothers who: [let me say I do not think this of all single mothers; just the ones who are really out to scam the system)
1. Have kids and expect us tax payers to support them
2. Have kids to the same man over and over whilst still collecting the pension
3. Seem to always have money to go out on 'pension week' to pick up a man, but then end up at charities the following week to get help paying their bills
4. Are seen every pension week buy a new outfit for themselves while their kids run around looking grotty
I have tried asking this question before but Yahoo removed it - I hope this gets through, because I really would like another persons perspective - maybe a single mothers point of veiw.
Single mothers?
I raised my son as a single mother. I DO get annoyed at the type of single mom you describe. I worked my tail off, didn't have public assistance and watched so many others just kick back, and use the system. I was worn out, but until he was 16, I never had a time when I worked one job. It was always 2 and sometimes 3, and I had several jobs that allowed me to bring him with me. I wasn't trying to let some babysitter raise him. Granted, that's not the ideal thing...but I think that it's much easier to 'help' someone with public assistance, if they're willing to help themselves. Those who refuse and do nothing, need to be forced to participate in their own support!
Like I said...I didn't have public assistance, but I wouldn't be against it, IF the people who were on it and able to work, would take some initiative. I also think deadbeat fathers should be forced to help support their kids. Just because they CAN walk away, doesn't mean they should be allowed.
Reply:Some things i have to say.. If it a single mother due to the divorce or death of the husband, the by all means we should be able to support them (and if the mother is smart, none of this will happen) BUT if it is a single mother due to being a stripper or something and having a kid by having sex with Joe Schmoe then never seeing him again, then we should not support. ( someone like this might be seen doing the things on the list) Hope this helps!
If it's the second mother i mentioned, then if they do all of that, then yes, they are annoying. But there are single mothers out there that work their butts off to make sure that their children can have a healthy lifestyle.
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1. Have kids and expect us tax payers to support them
2. Have kids to the same man over and over whilst still collecting the pension
3. Seem to always have money to go out on 'pension week' to pick up a man, but then end up at charities the following week to get help paying their bills
4. Are seen every pension week buy a new outfit for themselves while their kids run around looking grotty
I have tried asking this question before but Yahoo removed it - I hope this gets through, because I really would like another persons perspective - maybe a single mothers point of veiw.
Single mothers?
I raised my son as a single mother. I DO get annoyed at the type of single mom you describe. I worked my tail off, didn't have public assistance and watched so many others just kick back, and use the system. I was worn out, but until he was 16, I never had a time when I worked one job. It was always 2 and sometimes 3, and I had several jobs that allowed me to bring him with me. I wasn't trying to let some babysitter raise him. Granted, that's not the ideal thing...but I think that it's much easier to 'help' someone with public assistance, if they're willing to help themselves. Those who refuse and do nothing, need to be forced to participate in their own support!
Like I said...I didn't have public assistance, but I wouldn't be against it, IF the people who were on it and able to work, would take some initiative. I also think deadbeat fathers should be forced to help support their kids. Just because they CAN walk away, doesn't mean they should be allowed.
Reply:Some things i have to say.. If it a single mother due to the divorce or death of the husband, the by all means we should be able to support them (and if the mother is smart, none of this will happen) BUT if it is a single mother due to being a stripper or something and having a kid by having sex with Joe Schmoe then never seeing him again, then we should not support. ( someone like this might be seen doing the things on the list) Hope this helps!
If it's the second mother i mentioned, then if they do all of that, then yes, they are annoying. But there are single mothers out there that work their butts off to make sure that their children can have a healthy lifestyle.
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Single adoptive parents chat?
Are there single women out there who can chat about your adoption experience and your experience as a single parent? I'm seriously considering adopting and will be filling out the necessary paperwork soon. My boyfriend is thinking about marriage, but I am done waiting. I am ready for a child. I would like to talk to other single women in similar situations.
Single adoptive parents chat?
TAO Forum network.
http://www.taoforumnetwork.com/
There is a specific board for single parent adoption chat.
Reply:It is very hard. You say that you aren't comfortable trusting your life and your finances with a man; you'd be amazed at how expensive and stressful it is to raise children by yourself.
You've got at least 10 more years of fertility...why rush it?
Oh, and if you think finding a "keeper" is hard now, imagine how much more difficult it will be when you need to find one who is willing to take on someone else's kid too. And talk about trust issues! You'll end up worrying more if he does seem eager to take on your kid.
Reply:how old are you ?
Single adoptive parents chat?
TAO Forum network.
http://www.taoforumnetwork.com/
There is a specific board for single parent adoption chat.
Reply:It is very hard. You say that you aren't comfortable trusting your life and your finances with a man; you'd be amazed at how expensive and stressful it is to raise children by yourself.
You've got at least 10 more years of fertility...why rush it?
Oh, and if you think finding a "keeper" is hard now, imagine how much more difficult it will be when you need to find one who is willing to take on someone else's kid too. And talk about trust issues! You'll end up worrying more if he does seem eager to take on your kid.
Reply:how old are you ?
Single during Christmas time...?
What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?
Single during Christmas time...?
If you are happy single, then tell the people rude enough to ask that you are happy single, and leave it at that. Most people think that in order to be truly happy and complete, we all have to be in relationships (good or bad, just so long as your not single!). Some people just ask questions about your love life because they don't know what else to talk about. They think that because you're single you're out living it up with a different girl every night, and they want to hear all the dirty details. If you are happy with the way your life is, don't apologize for it, and change the subject.
Reply:Probably not jealous , just wondering why no kiss, no girlfriend ever ? As far as living with your family who cares.
Reply:no...no one is jealous. i am not being mean by saying this but it is time for u to grow up. it is EXTREMELY unhealthy for a 28yr old male to be living w/his parents and not many girls r going to be going after a BOY who still lives with his parents. It is time to grow up n take responsibility for your life. your parents will not be able to take care of u for the rest of your life. u need to learn how to live w/out them in case heaven forbid something happen to your parents. living on your own is something that takes time n your parents r certainly doing u an injustice for not preparing u for the real world.people r not being mean to u....they r just being honest.
Reply:Haha, jealous? No.
Jealous that you don't know what love is? No
Jealous that you don't understand a woman's warm touch? No.
Jealous that you will fit the criteria for a total loser in twelve years? No
People are interested because it just seems like you are immature. When baby birds get old enough, they fly away from the nest, not stay in it. It is natural to want your own life. Not saying that family is not important, but individual freedom is wonderful.
It may be advantageous that you aren't paying rent, but not having your own place isn't helping the gf issue. I can almost bet you that no girl will date you. Most, especially at your age, what someone who is economically independent and has their own life, not someone who probably plays WoW in his parents basement...not saying that you do [cough cough].
Jealousy is not the issue my friend...not at all.
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Haha, after reading through the other ones, it seems that a lot of people agree. Damn, it sucks to be you.
Reply:Kinda sounds like a loser to me. If you are 28, you shouldn't be telling anyone you are living rent free. Plenty of us could live at home with no responsibilities if we chose to, but we would rather be adults. It doesn't really matter if you have a girlfriend or not, but it seems like you don't have one b/c one won't have you.
Reply:it just doesnt seem like you are being an adult, yeah people are jealous about that stuff but you are also missing out on a lot by not living on your own or having a girlfriend. you cant really learn a whole lot about life and how to live it if you're still sheltered by your family.
Reply:umm is this a blog or a question? :0/
Reply:Many people look down upon someone your age who still lives at home... Especially considering the fact that you've never had a woman, it makes their assumptions work...
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it because I had to be on my own at 17 and know how cruel and expensive the world really is... I think people probably are a little jealous of you not having any financial responsbilities when they probably have oodles of debt...
If what you are doing works for you, keep on doing it... Screw what everyone else thinks!! =)
Single during Christmas time...?
If you are happy single, then tell the people rude enough to ask that you are happy single, and leave it at that. Most people think that in order to be truly happy and complete, we all have to be in relationships (good or bad, just so long as your not single!). Some people just ask questions about your love life because they don't know what else to talk about. They think that because you're single you're out living it up with a different girl every night, and they want to hear all the dirty details. If you are happy with the way your life is, don't apologize for it, and change the subject.
Reply:Probably not jealous , just wondering why no kiss, no girlfriend ever ? As far as living with your family who cares.
Reply:no...no one is jealous. i am not being mean by saying this but it is time for u to grow up. it is EXTREMELY unhealthy for a 28yr old male to be living w/his parents and not many girls r going to be going after a BOY who still lives with his parents. It is time to grow up n take responsibility for your life. your parents will not be able to take care of u for the rest of your life. u need to learn how to live w/out them in case heaven forbid something happen to your parents. living on your own is something that takes time n your parents r certainly doing u an injustice for not preparing u for the real world.people r not being mean to u....they r just being honest.
Reply:Haha, jealous? No.
Jealous that you don't know what love is? No
Jealous that you don't understand a woman's warm touch? No.
Jealous that you will fit the criteria for a total loser in twelve years? No
People are interested because it just seems like you are immature. When baby birds get old enough, they fly away from the nest, not stay in it. It is natural to want your own life. Not saying that family is not important, but individual freedom is wonderful.
It may be advantageous that you aren't paying rent, but not having your own place isn't helping the gf issue. I can almost bet you that no girl will date you. Most, especially at your age, what someone who is economically independent and has their own life, not someone who probably plays WoW in his parents basement...not saying that you do [cough cough].
Jealousy is not the issue my friend...not at all.
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Haha, after reading through the other ones, it seems that a lot of people agree. Damn, it sucks to be you.
Reply:Kinda sounds like a loser to me. If you are 28, you shouldn't be telling anyone you are living rent free. Plenty of us could live at home with no responsibilities if we chose to, but we would rather be adults. It doesn't really matter if you have a girlfriend or not, but it seems like you don't have one b/c one won't have you.
Reply:it just doesnt seem like you are being an adult, yeah people are jealous about that stuff but you are also missing out on a lot by not living on your own or having a girlfriend. you cant really learn a whole lot about life and how to live it if you're still sheltered by your family.
Reply:umm is this a blog or a question? :0/
Reply:Many people look down upon someone your age who still lives at home... Especially considering the fact that you've never had a woman, it makes their assumptions work...
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it because I had to be on my own at 17 and know how cruel and expensive the world really is... I think people probably are a little jealous of you not having any financial responsbilities when they probably have oodles of debt...
If what you are doing works for you, keep on doing it... Screw what everyone else thinks!! =)
Single coated shih tzu?
I have a shih tzu. She is AKC registered and I bought her from a reputible breeder. When she "blew out" her puppy fur, she appeared to have only grown in a single coat, rather than a full double coat. Her fur is very short and refuses to grow longer, but it is still very soft like human hair. Is this really uncommon? Her mother and father both had regular double coats (I saw them). If I breed her, would her puppies have a single coat or a double coat? She is beautiful, regardless of her coat, but I have never seen another single coated shih tzu before. I know that this disqualifies her for showing, but I have never wanted to show her, so that's not a problem. She meets all other breed standards and has an amazing temperment.
Single coated shih tzu?
She could possibly pass that trait on to her puppies.
So it's up to you what you want to do.
Reply:It is not something that you would want to pass on to another dog is it?
If not, do NOT breed her.
A good breeder wants to help boost their breeds good traits.
http://www.akc.org/breeds/shih_tzu/index... your dog doesnt have the qualities that the akc wants to see passed on. The reason you dont fix a show dog is to be able to help pass on its great genes.
A lot of people say they want a puppy but then when you tell them the price they say no, because they are friends they expect it free.
It takes a lot to get a good quality litter. VItamins and what happens if she needs a C section. Are you willing to lose an entire litter if things go wrong? Or even your dog.
If your friends like your dog, they should concider purchasing one from the breeder you got your dog from.
Single coated shih tzu?
She could possibly pass that trait on to her puppies.
So it's up to you what you want to do.
Reply:It is not something that you would want to pass on to another dog is it?
If not, do NOT breed her.
A good breeder wants to help boost their breeds good traits.
http://www.akc.org/breeds/shih_tzu/index... your dog doesnt have the qualities that the akc wants to see passed on. The reason you dont fix a show dog is to be able to help pass on its great genes.
A lot of people say they want a puppy but then when you tell them the price they say no, because they are friends they expect it free.
It takes a lot to get a good quality litter. VItamins and what happens if she needs a C section. Are you willing to lose an entire litter if things go wrong? Or even your dog.
If your friends like your dog, they should concider purchasing one from the breeder you got your dog from.
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
or harder?
I mean you dont have to ask anyone if (....)is ok to do, you dont need permission from the babies dad, you are the boss, you make all the descisions in your kids life.
Im not a single mom, but I think it would be easier as a single mom...esp, if your husband ALWAYS went against you like mine does...
Just to spite you.
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
its hard because all of the resonsibility is on you. my baby doesnt have a father so i dont know what its like to share that responsibility
Reply:Yes you are right, but then there is time's when my 9 year old does not listen to me, that's when I wish, he was here to step
in to discipline her. Other then that I am satisfiy to raise her by
myself. I don't have a problem with that. My 22 year old daughter scolds
her when she come over or when we are at their Apt. and I just
kick back and listen.
Reply:I have been both a single parent and now a married parent... I never asked for permission to do as I chose I am an adult and need no ones permission...
There are upsides and down sides to being both a single and married parent... As a single parent there is never a break when someone else is completely incharge... Even with a babysitter you are still giving instructions.. As a married parent sometimes it difficult to show a united front...
If my husband were always undermining me and making it more difficult to be a parent I would leave... There is no reason to stay with someone who clearly doesn't respect you as an adult and treat you as such...
It sounds vry cliche but it's true... Children learn what they live... Are the lessons your children are leaning in your home the lessons you want them to inact when they are adults? If not things need to change and sometimes that change means seperation and divorce...
It is far better for a child to grow up in a stable single parent home than in a married home with fighting and disrespect etc.
Reply:Being a single mom was hard at times. I have a son and many times I wished his dad was in his life on a regular basis, but I enjoyed raising him and taking pride in the fact that he is now 23 years old and one heck of a wonderful human being. I am always in favor of two parent households, but I also know it can be successfully done by one parent with alot of love and patience.
Reply:~I've been both and having a husband to help raise our child was so much easier! After I left, I found I was unable to handle our daughter and took parenting classes so I wouldn't spank her, (she was too little). I didn't have my husband to back up what I told her to do, or not to do.
Now I bear the burden of having to do absolutely everything while he's out womanizing and not even paying Child Support. I know that in the end, I'll have a clear conscience of knowing I did my part.
You and your husband need to see a counselor. The child has learned, or will learn, that he can play one against the other and not have any consequences. I'm so sorry to hear that.~
Reply:I have been a "single mom" for 5 years now, and I love it. But I must say my daughters stepdad lives in the next house so we are both aktive in her life. I dont miss having another child in the house who cant pickup his underwear or who does not know how to the garbage out.
It looks like you are fustrated with your hubby. You will need to have a long talk with him. But I must say from my experience (my kids dad died when she was 2 1/2) a child needs a male figure in there lives. Good fathers give their children that part of life that we women can not show them.
So talk to your hubby and tell him whats fustrating you and that if it does not change, you will change it for him.
Good Luck
Reply:I am technically a single mom. I have a boyfriend that helps me, but my sons real father has never met his child. IT IS NEVER EASY. When my son is upset, I can't help but resent that fact that his father has left everything up to me. To wish that you were a single parent is wrong. A baby needs both parents in it's life, and doing it alone, while it can work, it is NEVER easy. I struggle each and every day to do the best for my child. I struggle each and every day to show him twice as much love, to make up for his father not being here. EVERY DAY I try to get his real father involved. My boyfriend tries his hardest to show my son a fathers love. It is a lot harder to be a single parent that to be partners.
Reply:If your husband always goes against you in parenting then there are issues that NEED to be addressed and soon. My ex husband didn't go against what I said in as much as he really didn't pay attention. Yes my life as a mom became MUCH easier when I became single again. I was able to parent more effectively.
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I mean you dont have to ask anyone if (....)is ok to do, you dont need permission from the babies dad, you are the boss, you make all the descisions in your kids life.
Im not a single mom, but I think it would be easier as a single mom...esp, if your husband ALWAYS went against you like mine does...
Just to spite you.
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
its hard because all of the resonsibility is on you. my baby doesnt have a father so i dont know what its like to share that responsibility
Reply:Yes you are right, but then there is time's when my 9 year old does not listen to me, that's when I wish, he was here to step
in to discipline her. Other then that I am satisfiy to raise her by
myself. I don't have a problem with that. My 22 year old daughter scolds
her when she come over or when we are at their Apt. and I just
kick back and listen.
Reply:I have been both a single parent and now a married parent... I never asked for permission to do as I chose I am an adult and need no ones permission...
There are upsides and down sides to being both a single and married parent... As a single parent there is never a break when someone else is completely incharge... Even with a babysitter you are still giving instructions.. As a married parent sometimes it difficult to show a united front...
If my husband were always undermining me and making it more difficult to be a parent I would leave... There is no reason to stay with someone who clearly doesn't respect you as an adult and treat you as such...
It sounds vry cliche but it's true... Children learn what they live... Are the lessons your children are leaning in your home the lessons you want them to inact when they are adults? If not things need to change and sometimes that change means seperation and divorce...
It is far better for a child to grow up in a stable single parent home than in a married home with fighting and disrespect etc.
Reply:Being a single mom was hard at times. I have a son and many times I wished his dad was in his life on a regular basis, but I enjoyed raising him and taking pride in the fact that he is now 23 years old and one heck of a wonderful human being. I am always in favor of two parent households, but I also know it can be successfully done by one parent with alot of love and patience.
Reply:~I've been both and having a husband to help raise our child was so much easier! After I left, I found I was unable to handle our daughter and took parenting classes so I wouldn't spank her, (she was too little). I didn't have my husband to back up what I told her to do, or not to do.
Now I bear the burden of having to do absolutely everything while he's out womanizing and not even paying Child Support. I know that in the end, I'll have a clear conscience of knowing I did my part.
You and your husband need to see a counselor. The child has learned, or will learn, that he can play one against the other and not have any consequences. I'm so sorry to hear that.~
Reply:I have been a "single mom" for 5 years now, and I love it. But I must say my daughters stepdad lives in the next house so we are both aktive in her life. I dont miss having another child in the house who cant pickup his underwear or who does not know how to the garbage out.
It looks like you are fustrated with your hubby. You will need to have a long talk with him. But I must say from my experience (my kids dad died when she was 2 1/2) a child needs a male figure in there lives. Good fathers give their children that part of life that we women can not show them.
So talk to your hubby and tell him whats fustrating you and that if it does not change, you will change it for him.
Good Luck
Reply:I am technically a single mom. I have a boyfriend that helps me, but my sons real father has never met his child. IT IS NEVER EASY. When my son is upset, I can't help but resent that fact that his father has left everything up to me. To wish that you were a single parent is wrong. A baby needs both parents in it's life, and doing it alone, while it can work, it is NEVER easy. I struggle each and every day to do the best for my child. I struggle each and every day to show him twice as much love, to make up for his father not being here. EVERY DAY I try to get his real father involved. My boyfriend tries his hardest to show my son a fathers love. It is a lot harder to be a single parent that to be partners.
Reply:If your husband always goes against you in parenting then there are issues that NEED to be addressed and soon. My ex husband didn't go against what I said in as much as he really didn't pay attention. Yes my life as a mom became MUCH easier when I became single again. I was able to parent more effectively.
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Single or Married?
Is the grass greener on the other side? My married friends tell me to stay single as long as I can, and that I really don't want to be married, I'll live longer. But then I hear my single friends say, being single is the pits at times and they rather be married. Benefits of both? Downfalls to each? Does it even matter anymore? Does your marital status define you?
Single or Married?
Being single has its advantages and so does being married. But don't be in a hurry to get married. When you are single you only have yourself to answer to, you can come and go when you want, do what you want, when you want. With marriage comes the give and take, trying to understand what the partner likes and dislikes, and vise versa. But marriage is a beautiful thing, and it is a two way street where you need to compromise. Marriage should not define you, The way you are now should be the way you still are in marriage. And in this day and age some people look at it as if it doesn't mean anything anymore,,, commitment and vows. But just be yourself , and someday you will find someone and you will know in your heart what to do.
Reply:Marry but be happy, they have said it all.
Reply:Single-Come and go as you please. Do what you want.
Married-Held accountable by someone all the time. Do what the other person wants.
I am married and I love the fact that I know someone that I love is waiting for me at home when I get there.
When I was single I loved doing what I wanted when I wanted with whom I wanted but after a while that gets old.
Don't rush into anything. When you feel it's right.......pursue it. Until then have fun.
Reply:Don't listen to them. All relationships have to evolve into something. Eventually you will want to marry. I am happy I am married. I have someone to share my inner most thoughts with. I have someone who cares for me and loves me. Of course there are downfalls. But, what you gain is worth it. I am not defined by my marriage, I define my marriage.
Reply:In this day and age does it matter if you are single or married? I say find someone you love, your soul mate and stick with it. Live is too short.
Reply:The grass isn't greener on either side. It comes down to how you feel inside. Many people enjoy staying single for much of their 20s and early 30s. There is nothing wrong with at. On the flip side, marriage comes with alot more baggage, but also has its benefits. It really comes down to how you feel about yourself first. As for marriage defining you, you should be "defined" before saying any "I Do".
Reply:Well, marital status helps define you. But the idea here is that some people are in love with the idea of being married, not really in love with their spouse.
I'm semi-happily married to my wife. We have our arguments, and it's not always the best, greatest thing on earth, but I love being married to her. We have arguments like single people do. We had to figure out how to coexist with each other, which is still a learning experience to this day. We have learned a lot and hurt a lot with each other, but I wouldn't give it up for the world.
Marriage works for some people. For some people, it's a failed experiment. It depends on how you view life. Sometimes, I'll joke with my friends, telling them to wait until 40 to get married. Then my wife frowns at me severely, and we laugh. Marriage brings you closer, but you have to have an incredible amount of patience, trust, faith, love, and you have to be able to WORK at it much more than just dating.
It pays off. Greatest thing I've ever done.
Good luck.
Reply:Married or single the status defines your legal position. Being single on a cold wet afternoon when all your friends are out and all you have is a cat, is pretty depressing. Being married is a life change which most people happily adapt to. The only thing which matters is who you marry. He should be the most important person in your life. Both single and married life offer different comforts. Singles can go where they want when they want with who they want and do not have to refer to the partner/children/school holiday schedules / dog kennels etc. But marrieds have always got someone to talk with, to share the ups and downs of life and you grow together. It seems from reading the YA sections for some time that people with bad marriages often knew beforehand that they would not work and they were pressured into marriage. Age tells a story where two people are both very young the guys usually can't cope with the responsibilities especially when a baby comes along in a short time and they have not even got to know one another yet. If you take these into consideration and ask why marriage was instituted in the first place (God saw that it was not good for man to be alone) then the best reason is that you have hugs on tap, a back scratcher and someone who you can be yourself with. If you choose right, otherwise it can be hell. Good luck.
Reply:Nobody can really answer that for you. I know that I am happier being married, I love to be committed to someone I love and can built a meaning realtionship with and have a family. Some people can not settle with one person and don't want to have kids, I'd say stay single. Ask yourself if you prefer the thrill and freedom being able to do wahtever you want without consulting your partner and not knowing if you'll spend the weekend or night alone. Ask yourself what makes you more happy. It's a choice and a preference of life style.
Reply:marry
Reply:It depends on what you want and how you approach it. Marriage is WORK and some people don't realize how much effort it takes to make it work. You have to go into it knowing that you're sharing your life with someone who is different. I think being married is one of the best things because you always have someone to share your life with. Being single is not bad either, you just have to figure out what you want and go from there.
Reply:I've been single, I've been married and I've been single again. I prefer single.
Reply:i am married... although the road of marriage is not as smooth as i want it to be but i still have no regrets being married to my husband...
it was lonely being single although the joy of freedom is there... but at least when you are married, you can come home to someone who would be there to cheer you up when you are moody and vexed...
Reply:No regrets, that i am married for 27 years. although, we had heavy quarrel/fighting, there are times I want to quit but thankz GOD, I am still here and I was blessed with 4 beautiful and talented children. finished their studies with flying colors and now working with high pay. They are very caring and thougthful to me and to their father. At least, we can look forward that they'll be the one who will take care on us especially on our old age.
What can i say more, it's better to be married and have children than to remain single.
Reply:I think being attached is better. At least, you've got someone to share your joys and woes. Somebody who enjoy your companion and loves you. And in my opinion, it doesn't really matter whether you're married or not. Isn't it? Other than legally recognised and giving some kind of recognition to your wife...People still marry and divorce anyway?
Reply:This is a personal choice, and how good is your present relationship is it marriage material, or does it still need time.... you have to do what is right for yourself.... and what makes you the happiest...
Reply:It all depends on what you want. But I agree, most people want what they cant or dont have.
Reply:I meet this man 10 years ago, 4 years ago I got pregnant, we didn't get married,2 years ago we decided off the wall to get married....DON'T DO IT!!!! Meet someone, stay with them, be faithful to each other and care for one another...People say sex changes everything....Marriage does.
Reply:its better to have some1 u love who loves u bak and is commited to u, for the rest of ur life. if want to get married u shuld get married because u love each other and will love each other for the rest of your life. other wise marrage is pointless. be careful, love is not a fluttery feeling, "Love is paitent, love is kind. it does not envy, it dose not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angerd, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. it always PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always HOPES, always PERSERVERS." (1 corinthians 13:4-7)
marrage can be horrible if u marry the wrong person, so dont just marry any1.
this is slightly opinionated because i am not married. but i would like to get married some day. iv thought about this a fair bit.
i think its good to get married because then u kno tht there is and will always (till death) be some1 there for u, and u will be there for them. its so happy :)
i hope that wateva u decide to do u are happy with your decision. not evryone will be happy married.
Single or Married?
Being single has its advantages and so does being married. But don't be in a hurry to get married. When you are single you only have yourself to answer to, you can come and go when you want, do what you want, when you want. With marriage comes the give and take, trying to understand what the partner likes and dislikes, and vise versa. But marriage is a beautiful thing, and it is a two way street where you need to compromise. Marriage should not define you, The way you are now should be the way you still are in marriage. And in this day and age some people look at it as if it doesn't mean anything anymore,,, commitment and vows. But just be yourself , and someday you will find someone and you will know in your heart what to do.
Reply:Marry but be happy, they have said it all.
Reply:Single-Come and go as you please. Do what you want.
Married-Held accountable by someone all the time. Do what the other person wants.
I am married and I love the fact that I know someone that I love is waiting for me at home when I get there.
When I was single I loved doing what I wanted when I wanted with whom I wanted but after a while that gets old.
Don't rush into anything. When you feel it's right.......pursue it. Until then have fun.
Reply:Don't listen to them. All relationships have to evolve into something. Eventually you will want to marry. I am happy I am married. I have someone to share my inner most thoughts with. I have someone who cares for me and loves me. Of course there are downfalls. But, what you gain is worth it. I am not defined by my marriage, I define my marriage.
Reply:In this day and age does it matter if you are single or married? I say find someone you love, your soul mate and stick with it. Live is too short.
Reply:The grass isn't greener on either side. It comes down to how you feel inside. Many people enjoy staying single for much of their 20s and early 30s. There is nothing wrong with at. On the flip side, marriage comes with alot more baggage, but also has its benefits. It really comes down to how you feel about yourself first. As for marriage defining you, you should be "defined" before saying any "I Do".
Reply:Well, marital status helps define you. But the idea here is that some people are in love with the idea of being married, not really in love with their spouse.
I'm semi-happily married to my wife. We have our arguments, and it's not always the best, greatest thing on earth, but I love being married to her. We have arguments like single people do. We had to figure out how to coexist with each other, which is still a learning experience to this day. We have learned a lot and hurt a lot with each other, but I wouldn't give it up for the world.
Marriage works for some people. For some people, it's a failed experiment. It depends on how you view life. Sometimes, I'll joke with my friends, telling them to wait until 40 to get married. Then my wife frowns at me severely, and we laugh. Marriage brings you closer, but you have to have an incredible amount of patience, trust, faith, love, and you have to be able to WORK at it much more than just dating.
It pays off. Greatest thing I've ever done.
Good luck.
Reply:Married or single the status defines your legal position. Being single on a cold wet afternoon when all your friends are out and all you have is a cat, is pretty depressing. Being married is a life change which most people happily adapt to. The only thing which matters is who you marry. He should be the most important person in your life. Both single and married life offer different comforts. Singles can go where they want when they want with who they want and do not have to refer to the partner/children/school holiday schedules / dog kennels etc. But marrieds have always got someone to talk with, to share the ups and downs of life and you grow together. It seems from reading the YA sections for some time that people with bad marriages often knew beforehand that they would not work and they were pressured into marriage. Age tells a story where two people are both very young the guys usually can't cope with the responsibilities especially when a baby comes along in a short time and they have not even got to know one another yet. If you take these into consideration and ask why marriage was instituted in the first place (God saw that it was not good for man to be alone) then the best reason is that you have hugs on tap, a back scratcher and someone who you can be yourself with. If you choose right, otherwise it can be hell. Good luck.
Reply:Nobody can really answer that for you. I know that I am happier being married, I love to be committed to someone I love and can built a meaning realtionship with and have a family. Some people can not settle with one person and don't want to have kids, I'd say stay single. Ask yourself if you prefer the thrill and freedom being able to do wahtever you want without consulting your partner and not knowing if you'll spend the weekend or night alone. Ask yourself what makes you more happy. It's a choice and a preference of life style.
Reply:marry
Reply:It depends on what you want and how you approach it. Marriage is WORK and some people don't realize how much effort it takes to make it work. You have to go into it knowing that you're sharing your life with someone who is different. I think being married is one of the best things because you always have someone to share your life with. Being single is not bad either, you just have to figure out what you want and go from there.
Reply:I've been single, I've been married and I've been single again. I prefer single.
Reply:i am married... although the road of marriage is not as smooth as i want it to be but i still have no regrets being married to my husband...
it was lonely being single although the joy of freedom is there... but at least when you are married, you can come home to someone who would be there to cheer you up when you are moody and vexed...
Reply:No regrets, that i am married for 27 years. although, we had heavy quarrel/fighting, there are times I want to quit but thankz GOD, I am still here and I was blessed with 4 beautiful and talented children. finished their studies with flying colors and now working with high pay. They are very caring and thougthful to me and to their father. At least, we can look forward that they'll be the one who will take care on us especially on our old age.
What can i say more, it's better to be married and have children than to remain single.
Reply:I think being attached is better. At least, you've got someone to share your joys and woes. Somebody who enjoy your companion and loves you. And in my opinion, it doesn't really matter whether you're married or not. Isn't it? Other than legally recognised and giving some kind of recognition to your wife...People still marry and divorce anyway?
Reply:This is a personal choice, and how good is your present relationship is it marriage material, or does it still need time.... you have to do what is right for yourself.... and what makes you the happiest...
Reply:It all depends on what you want. But I agree, most people want what they cant or dont have.
Reply:I meet this man 10 years ago, 4 years ago I got pregnant, we didn't get married,2 years ago we decided off the wall to get married....DON'T DO IT!!!! Meet someone, stay with them, be faithful to each other and care for one another...People say sex changes everything....Marriage does.
Reply:its better to have some1 u love who loves u bak and is commited to u, for the rest of ur life. if want to get married u shuld get married because u love each other and will love each other for the rest of your life. other wise marrage is pointless. be careful, love is not a fluttery feeling, "Love is paitent, love is kind. it does not envy, it dose not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angerd, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. it always PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always HOPES, always PERSERVERS." (1 corinthians 13:4-7)
marrage can be horrible if u marry the wrong person, so dont just marry any1.
this is slightly opinionated because i am not married. but i would like to get married some day. iv thought about this a fair bit.
i think its good to get married because then u kno tht there is and will always (till death) be some1 there for u, and u will be there for them. its so happy :)
i hope that wateva u decide to do u are happy with your decision. not evryone will be happy married.
Single for three and a half years, help?
I have been single for three and a half years. I was with my ex for 4 years and absolutely loved him to pieces but he didn't turn out to be the person that I thought he was unfortunately. He really destroyed my confidence but I do still think about him quite a bit. I have met a few people over the last few years but nothing that I have wanted to pursue. All of my friends are settling down and I am the only single one left now. Feel like I am going to be single forever? Any advice on how to meet new people? I do believe that there is someone out there for everyone just haven't found him yet!!!
Single for three and a half years, help?
When you least expect it you'll meet someone don't worry. Your friends might know someone you never know. But don't give up hope you'll find someone.
Reply:Dont panic about it thats the main thing and life your life meanwhile. It'll happen when you least expect it to. Why not try supermarket, library and church at least you will meet a decent kinda guy in these places. Well I was told that anyways. Good luck.
Mrs. G. Are there no single people in Glasgow then?
Reply:It took me even longer to regain trust or even caring about someone but I bucked up %26amp; started looking agian its hard to get over certain heart breaks but then I realized it happens %26amp; why should I punish myself longer by not trying for love again
Reply:Come to Glasgow... you will be single for 2 minutes... you will be hit on by every other man in the street.. believe me ...
Reply:I feel lonely aswell, would you be interesting in us getting to know each other, because I could do with to be with someone.
Reply:He'll come along when you least expect it. Have you tried net dating? It can and does work.
Reply:it will happen you will meat someone else sometimes it just take time darlin xx
Reply:Don't feel bad. I was in your shoes. I was wondering when miss right would come along. I was single for 2yrs but was married for 10 in a very bad relationship. I thought all women were cruel. A few weeks ago i meet someone. It happened to be in a place that i don't go looking for women- deli %26amp; pub. I hardly ever go there- actually this was about the 3rd time in my life. She wasn't suppose to be there either but stopped in to see a friend. I happened to bump into her friend and since the place was packed i asked if i could join them at their table to finish me beer. Little did i know that the conversation would be so intresting and they got me involved wanting to know a guys opinion. We have spent everyday thus far together. Don't give up- you know what people say is that love finds you when you're not looking for it.
Reply:ive been single for 6 yrs now ...i feel the same as you !!! when will i ever find a man ...
i have a met a few in between but not being funny i could get a man but i want to find the right one ...there has to be some chemistry but so far the hasnt been
but i hope things work out for us both
i have met a few men online but you have to be carful ...tell friends etc where and when etc ...
but its very hard especially going out on your own to a pub but its ok if its dinner time lol
well if you find one tell me how you managed it lol
good luck x
Reply:Just enjoy being single Bridget. The right person will come along when you least expect it. You may even already know the person
Reply:you are not going to be single for ever. maybe you did not stop thinking on your last relationship and you are not allowing yourself to meet someone knew. let your past go, and get ready top open your heart to other people.
now that you are alone, learn about yourself and you will see that you will find someone knew as soon as you are ready for him! good luck! :)
Reply:I can actually beat three and a half years, but lets not turn this in to a contest. The best way I've found to meet people is through clubs and organisations. In particular I've being learning to dance for the past few months and I've met loads of really cool people through it. The other thing with dancing is that it serves as a really good ice breaker as you're up close and personal straight a way - it's definitely recommended. I just also want to add quickly that it doesn't matter if you're single, just that you're happy. You don't have to be with someone for the sake of it or because you're supposed to. Best of luck!
Reply:After my divorce, married for 7 years, I was single for 4 years. Then I met a guy when I wasn't even looking. Just go about your life and when the time is right it will happen. (How cliche' is that?)
Reply:www.hotornot.com
Don't push yourself to find the right one. Just meet people and discover what you want in a spouse and have fun in the process. That way when you do come across the one, you will know :)
Anyway, hotornot is a fun way to meet people - both friends and possible dates.
Reply:Are you focused on finding a replacement for him, that has all his good qualities and none of the bad? That is a very specific thing to be looking for. Try having an open mind, and focus on just a few key things you need to have the time spent getting to know the person feel worthwhile on its own merits.
Also, a lot of wise people say you find the person you are looking for right after you stop looking for them. In other words, you can try too hard and become too mechanical, and then your real self doesn't shine through.
If you have good friends, and they seem to like you, just let them know you are interested in meeting someone nice. If you don't have good friends, focus on meeting them instead of a man. With one will come the other.
Best of luck!
Reply:Be the way you are, the kind of person you are. It's the best thing when we are like for our originality.
You don't have to SPECIALLY look for somebody to get rid of this 'I am Still Single' thing.
I am sure someone would love you for the original you than the fishing you.
You are proud of yourself, you deserve someone great therefore no haste to catch up with your friends who are not single anymore.
You have freedom to make choice and your friends don't. Their game is over.
I don't know your guy you loved to pieces but your words are like fragrance and speak of your dedication, do you people talk ? If yes, keep in touch, after all we seldom love someone and its not ofter that we like and get like so originally.
Reply:well what u are thinkin can be true, "as yet" he ain't come along, but there's no need for u to be worried over. U are someone and as long as u ain't find the one that u really love then wait, as the sayin goes "good things comes to those who wait" so there's nothing for u to be worried over. Sometimes there is a possibility that u might be single forever but that ain't say nuttin, u are a human being and somehow u might jus be able to get tha someone tha really care about u. so jus hold on still, have patience, don't worry!!!!
Reply:Don't try so hard and you will just run into the perfect guy.
Reply:What Do You Think About Me..
Reply:i think when people say that you should stop looking and hell come to you is right
think it is because when your looking for a partner people can tell...standing looking around and looking too available, not having fun when your out ...so you look like your not any fun to be with......so if you stop looking and start having fun people will approach you
Reply:Hey Bidget
Try to remember that there's nothing wrong with not having a partner. Maybe the lesson is in you learning to be comfortable with you. But if you really want to go out on a date, if you can hold a conversation, have a pulse, smile freely, and smell nice i'll take you out on a date. And i'll treat you like a lady and hope for little in return other than freindship, as that really is one of the greatest things people can share, and it's much underated.
ps my e-mail tag is no secret and i'm offering you that in full view of our whole watching community.
Take care and be well
ml GA x
Reply:Rejoice. There is nothing wrong with being single except that you don't know how to enjoy it. If you're sitting around dwelling on the past and worrying that your life isn't exactly like someone else's it's no wonder you hate your freedom.
Reply:Be patient. Do things that you like to do. Eventually you may meet someone interesting. Be friendly and smile! If you appear approachable then you may get approaced. If you are the talkative type then say "hello" to someone interesting you see in a store or mall or library. Don't worry about being single. There are positives to think about. You have no one else to worry about but yourself.
Reply:i agree with fluffy i quit looking for love then my husband found me.....were do you live my cousin is lookin for a good girl....try yahoo singles
Reply:just move ur *** im not tryin to be mean just saying if u want results do what u need to do. if u need more confidence start online chat with people socializing is the key. then go out, but pick where ur going u usually wont find a man u wanna marry in a club but clubs are great for socializing. now start before u become a cat lady =)n good luck
Reply:get out there and party , it will happen when you least expect it.
Oh don't treat everyman like they are going to do the dirty on you at any time , give them the benefit of the doubt.
Reply:Maintain your Friends and when you least expect it, you will find someone who will be that person you are looking for.
Reply:The minute you stop looking for Mr Right he will probably turn up.. Get out there and enjoy your freedom in the meantime!
Reply:dont feel presured just because everyone else is settling down. if you wait youll find your someone. but you have to forget about old relationships and get yourself out there. people dont just fall into your lap. go out to clubs. try dating services, go to bars......actually dont go to bars most guys there just want sex. try meeting someone online. there is a huge amount of things you can do. get some of your girlfriends to help you.
Reply:You won't be single forever, there is always someone out there! You just have to keep you head up, it will come in time.
Reply:Me, me, me. I'm lonely. You can rub my belly and feed me chocolate.
Single for three and a half years, help?
When you least expect it you'll meet someone don't worry. Your friends might know someone you never know. But don't give up hope you'll find someone.
Reply:Dont panic about it thats the main thing and life your life meanwhile. It'll happen when you least expect it to. Why not try supermarket, library and church at least you will meet a decent kinda guy in these places. Well I was told that anyways. Good luck.
Mrs. G. Are there no single people in Glasgow then?
Reply:It took me even longer to regain trust or even caring about someone but I bucked up %26amp; started looking agian its hard to get over certain heart breaks but then I realized it happens %26amp; why should I punish myself longer by not trying for love again
Reply:Come to Glasgow... you will be single for 2 minutes... you will be hit on by every other man in the street.. believe me ...
Reply:I feel lonely aswell, would you be interesting in us getting to know each other, because I could do with to be with someone.
Reply:He'll come along when you least expect it. Have you tried net dating? It can and does work.
Reply:it will happen you will meat someone else sometimes it just take time darlin xx
Reply:Don't feel bad. I was in your shoes. I was wondering when miss right would come along. I was single for 2yrs but was married for 10 in a very bad relationship. I thought all women were cruel. A few weeks ago i meet someone. It happened to be in a place that i don't go looking for women- deli %26amp; pub. I hardly ever go there- actually this was about the 3rd time in my life. She wasn't suppose to be there either but stopped in to see a friend. I happened to bump into her friend and since the place was packed i asked if i could join them at their table to finish me beer. Little did i know that the conversation would be so intresting and they got me involved wanting to know a guys opinion. We have spent everyday thus far together. Don't give up- you know what people say is that love finds you when you're not looking for it.
Reply:ive been single for 6 yrs now ...i feel the same as you !!! when will i ever find a man ...
i have a met a few in between but not being funny i could get a man but i want to find the right one ...there has to be some chemistry but so far the hasnt been
but i hope things work out for us both
i have met a few men online but you have to be carful ...tell friends etc where and when etc ...
but its very hard especially going out on your own to a pub but its ok if its dinner time lol
well if you find one tell me how you managed it lol
good luck x
Reply:Just enjoy being single Bridget. The right person will come along when you least expect it. You may even already know the person
Reply:you are not going to be single for ever. maybe you did not stop thinking on your last relationship and you are not allowing yourself to meet someone knew. let your past go, and get ready top open your heart to other people.
now that you are alone, learn about yourself and you will see that you will find someone knew as soon as you are ready for him! good luck! :)
Reply:I can actually beat three and a half years, but lets not turn this in to a contest. The best way I've found to meet people is through clubs and organisations. In particular I've being learning to dance for the past few months and I've met loads of really cool people through it. The other thing with dancing is that it serves as a really good ice breaker as you're up close and personal straight a way - it's definitely recommended. I just also want to add quickly that it doesn't matter if you're single, just that you're happy. You don't have to be with someone for the sake of it or because you're supposed to. Best of luck!
Reply:After my divorce, married for 7 years, I was single for 4 years. Then I met a guy when I wasn't even looking. Just go about your life and when the time is right it will happen. (How cliche' is that?)
Reply:www.hotornot.com
Don't push yourself to find the right one. Just meet people and discover what you want in a spouse and have fun in the process. That way when you do come across the one, you will know :)
Anyway, hotornot is a fun way to meet people - both friends and possible dates.
Reply:Are you focused on finding a replacement for him, that has all his good qualities and none of the bad? That is a very specific thing to be looking for. Try having an open mind, and focus on just a few key things you need to have the time spent getting to know the person feel worthwhile on its own merits.
Also, a lot of wise people say you find the person you are looking for right after you stop looking for them. In other words, you can try too hard and become too mechanical, and then your real self doesn't shine through.
If you have good friends, and they seem to like you, just let them know you are interested in meeting someone nice. If you don't have good friends, focus on meeting them instead of a man. With one will come the other.
Best of luck!
Reply:Be the way you are, the kind of person you are. It's the best thing when we are like for our originality.
You don't have to SPECIALLY look for somebody to get rid of this 'I am Still Single' thing.
I am sure someone would love you for the original you than the fishing you.
You are proud of yourself, you deserve someone great therefore no haste to catch up with your friends who are not single anymore.
You have freedom to make choice and your friends don't. Their game is over.
I don't know your guy you loved to pieces but your words are like fragrance and speak of your dedication, do you people talk ? If yes, keep in touch, after all we seldom love someone and its not ofter that we like and get like so originally.
Reply:well what u are thinkin can be true, "as yet" he ain't come along, but there's no need for u to be worried over. U are someone and as long as u ain't find the one that u really love then wait, as the sayin goes "good things comes to those who wait" so there's nothing for u to be worried over. Sometimes there is a possibility that u might be single forever but that ain't say nuttin, u are a human being and somehow u might jus be able to get tha someone tha really care about u. so jus hold on still, have patience, don't worry!!!!
Reply:Don't try so hard and you will just run into the perfect guy.
Reply:What Do You Think About Me..
Reply:i think when people say that you should stop looking and hell come to you is right
think it is because when your looking for a partner people can tell...standing looking around and looking too available, not having fun when your out ...so you look like your not any fun to be with......so if you stop looking and start having fun people will approach you
Reply:Hey Bidget
Try to remember that there's nothing wrong with not having a partner. Maybe the lesson is in you learning to be comfortable with you. But if you really want to go out on a date, if you can hold a conversation, have a pulse, smile freely, and smell nice i'll take you out on a date. And i'll treat you like a lady and hope for little in return other than freindship, as that really is one of the greatest things people can share, and it's much underated.
ps my e-mail tag is no secret and i'm offering you that in full view of our whole watching community.
Take care and be well
ml GA x
Reply:Rejoice. There is nothing wrong with being single except that you don't know how to enjoy it. If you're sitting around dwelling on the past and worrying that your life isn't exactly like someone else's it's no wonder you hate your freedom.
Reply:Be patient. Do things that you like to do. Eventually you may meet someone interesting. Be friendly and smile! If you appear approachable then you may get approaced. If you are the talkative type then say "hello" to someone interesting you see in a store or mall or library. Don't worry about being single. There are positives to think about. You have no one else to worry about but yourself.
Reply:i agree with fluffy i quit looking for love then my husband found me.....were do you live my cousin is lookin for a good girl....try yahoo singles
Reply:just move ur *** im not tryin to be mean just saying if u want results do what u need to do. if u need more confidence start online chat with people socializing is the key. then go out, but pick where ur going u usually wont find a man u wanna marry in a club but clubs are great for socializing. now start before u become a cat lady =)n good luck
Reply:get out there and party , it will happen when you least expect it.
Oh don't treat everyman like they are going to do the dirty on you at any time , give them the benefit of the doubt.
Reply:Maintain your Friends and when you least expect it, you will find someone who will be that person you are looking for.
Reply:The minute you stop looking for Mr Right he will probably turn up.. Get out there and enjoy your freedom in the meantime!
Reply:dont feel presured just because everyone else is settling down. if you wait youll find your someone. but you have to forget about old relationships and get yourself out there. people dont just fall into your lap. go out to clubs. try dating services, go to bars......actually dont go to bars most guys there just want sex. try meeting someone online. there is a huge amount of things you can do. get some of your girlfriends to help you.
Reply:You won't be single forever, there is always someone out there! You just have to keep you head up, it will come in time.
Reply:Me, me, me. I'm lonely. You can rub my belly and feed me chocolate.
Why do some single mothers think that single dad's need to call them about female issues?
I know some single mothers that constantly think I'm going to be calling them every week about "female issues" because I'm a single dad. I'm sick and tired of hearing this. I don't go around telling single mothers that they'll be calling me with "boy issues" because they're raising boys. My daughter is almost done with high school and I've been through her first period with her, her driver's license, boyfriend problems, etc, etc. And not once, was I even close to calling them. And the biggest thing I hear from these women is that I don't know, and I'll see what they mean, etc, etc. I mean, I knew her period was coming, auto insurance is higher because of her, etc, etc. I don't get all excited, and hysterical over things that I know are going to happen.
Things in life that I can't do nothing about don't get me all hysterical with my daughter, but some single mothers do,
Why do some of them act this way, and assume I'll be calling them?
Why do some single mothers think that single dad's need to call them about female issues?
I think that it is probably because most men don't want to talk about "girl Issues" with their daughters...but if you can, and you have, that is awesome! you are a great dad to be so involved! good job, and just laugh at those women who say that to you....maybe they should come to you for help!
Reply:they think men are incompatant, and that all of you are uncomfortable with speaking about girl problems with their daughters. A fact that you obviously could easily disprove.
Reply:Probably because most fathers/men shy away from feminine issues and young girls typically feel more comfortable talking about it with a mother or motherly figure. Kudos to you for being so tuned in to your daughters needs. I give you all the credit in the world. I wish there were more fathers like you!
Reply:you mean kind of like how guys think I need advice on raising a little boy?
Reply:My mom died when I was ten
My father had my aunt and granny do the female stuff
A lot of men have problems with girls, not all
My father thought dealing with my brothers, then my sister and I
Some many have no problem
You are right, it's is not nice to assume you can not handle these issues
Reply:To be totally honest I have yet to come across a man who is as capable as you are to handle those things. Even my husband had to be reminded to wipe away from our new daughter's privates. He isn't even willing to go buy breast pads for me since I'm breastfeeding. He sure isn't going to be able to handle the menstral issue and is likely to be the type of dad who doesn't want his "baby girl" to be allowed on a date until she graduates college!
It is awesome that you've realized that being dad is much more important then supposed cultural morals of what a "mother" or "father" is supposed to teach their children based on a child's gender!
Things in life that I can't do nothing about don't get me all hysterical with my daughter, but some single mothers do,
Why do some of them act this way, and assume I'll be calling them?
Why do some single mothers think that single dad's need to call them about female issues?
I think that it is probably because most men don't want to talk about "girl Issues" with their daughters...but if you can, and you have, that is awesome! you are a great dad to be so involved! good job, and just laugh at those women who say that to you....maybe they should come to you for help!
Reply:they think men are incompatant, and that all of you are uncomfortable with speaking about girl problems with their daughters. A fact that you obviously could easily disprove.
Reply:Probably because most fathers/men shy away from feminine issues and young girls typically feel more comfortable talking about it with a mother or motherly figure. Kudos to you for being so tuned in to your daughters needs. I give you all the credit in the world. I wish there were more fathers like you!
Reply:you mean kind of like how guys think I need advice on raising a little boy?
Reply:My mom died when I was ten
My father had my aunt and granny do the female stuff
A lot of men have problems with girls, not all
My father thought dealing with my brothers, then my sister and I
Some many have no problem
You are right, it's is not nice to assume you can not handle these issues
Reply:To be totally honest I have yet to come across a man who is as capable as you are to handle those things. Even my husband had to be reminded to wipe away from our new daughter's privates. He isn't even willing to go buy breast pads for me since I'm breastfeeding. He sure isn't going to be able to handle the menstral issue and is likely to be the type of dad who doesn't want his "baby girl" to be allowed on a date until she graduates college!
It is awesome that you've realized that being dad is much more important then supposed cultural morals of what a "mother" or "father" is supposed to teach their children based on a child's gender!
Single during Christmas time...?
What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?
Single during Christmas time...?
Are you living at home to save up money to eventually move out and buy a house? In that case I don't see much of an issue with it. But you are 28. Single or not at that age it's time to start thinking about becoming an adult and owning your own place and paying your own bills. You say you have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities, people find that unusual because that's more like a teenagers lifestyle, not an adults. Do you pitch in? Pay your parents rent? Buy groceries? Otherwise it kinda seems like mooching off of them. Don't you want to grow up and have a life outside your immediate family? Its hard for people to understand why you wouldn't want that.
Reply:Matt, live the way you see fit. As long as you are not doing drugs, stealing, sexually molesting children, and rapping women your are doing well.
People tend to question what they do not understand or what they can not afford to do.
Enjoy the comforts of your parents and siblings, that way when you decide to build your own, your foundation will be a solid one.
dental hygienist
Single during Christmas time...?
Are you living at home to save up money to eventually move out and buy a house? In that case I don't see much of an issue with it. But you are 28. Single or not at that age it's time to start thinking about becoming an adult and owning your own place and paying your own bills. You say you have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities, people find that unusual because that's more like a teenagers lifestyle, not an adults. Do you pitch in? Pay your parents rent? Buy groceries? Otherwise it kinda seems like mooching off of them. Don't you want to grow up and have a life outside your immediate family? Its hard for people to understand why you wouldn't want that.
Reply:Matt, live the way you see fit. As long as you are not doing drugs, stealing, sexually molesting children, and rapping women your are doing well.
People tend to question what they do not understand or what they can not afford to do.
Enjoy the comforts of your parents and siblings, that way when you decide to build your own, your foundation will be a solid one.
dental hygienist
Single during Christmas holiday...?
What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?
Single during Christmas holiday...?
You keep asking similar questions which leads me to believe that you know it's not normal and it is weird and your looking for confirmation from others.
It's not jealousy, not by a long shot. Trust me.. I won't say what it is, but it's not jealousy.
Reply:No, people are not jealous of you. You are a sorry excuse of a man, so why would some one be jealous of you?
Reply:Yeah Matt, that's it ...we are all jealous! Why did you have the need to post this? Ummm, your the man Matt!! WoW you've got life by the horns! Live and let live! Relationships......who needs em'! Matt you've figured out the perfect life style, and didn't have to do a thing....brilliant!!! You da man!! Hope all that makes you feel a lil' better about yourself.
Single during Christmas holiday...?
You keep asking similar questions which leads me to believe that you know it's not normal and it is weird and your looking for confirmation from others.
It's not jealousy, not by a long shot. Trust me.. I won't say what it is, but it's not jealousy.
Reply:No, people are not jealous of you. You are a sorry excuse of a man, so why would some one be jealous of you?
Reply:Yeah Matt, that's it ...we are all jealous! Why did you have the need to post this? Ummm, your the man Matt!! WoW you've got life by the horns! Live and let live! Relationships......who needs em'! Matt you've figured out the perfect life style, and didn't have to do a thing....brilliant!!! You da man!! Hope all that makes you feel a lil' better about yourself.
Single help?
single. hate it. dont like any1. except my x a little. he is totally over me cause we only broke up with eachother a day ago and i feel totally depressed. i dont wanna be single 4 valentines day. i hate being single. it feels like life isnt worth living. please please help.
Single help?
Go out with your Single girls friends. Or make new friends.
Reply:just wait until the right guy comes around...or give me a call...
Reply:get over it and move on cause if you dont your whole life will pass you by and you will be alone
Reply:the best way to get over a lover is to get under a new one
Reply:Life is even more worth living when you're single. That's when your personal fulfillment matters most. What do you really need a man for, anyway? Companionship? You have friends for that.
Reply:listen being single is annoying but itz not the end of the world know you can be with anyone you want and do anything n u dont have 2 worry about your bfs oppinions
Single help?
Go out with your Single girls friends. Or make new friends.
Reply:just wait until the right guy comes around...or give me a call...
Reply:get over it and move on cause if you dont your whole life will pass you by and you will be alone
Reply:the best way to get over a lover is to get under a new one
Reply:Life is even more worth living when you're single. That's when your personal fulfillment matters most. What do you really need a man for, anyway? Companionship? You have friends for that.
Reply:listen being single is annoying but itz not the end of the world know you can be with anyone you want and do anything n u dont have 2 worry about your bfs oppinions
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
or harder?
I mean you dont have to ask anyone if (....)is ok to do, you dont need permission from the babies dad, you are the boss, you make all the descisions in your kids life.
Im not a single mom, but I think it would be easier as a single mom...esp, if your husband ALWAYS went against you like mine does...
Just to spite you.
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
its hard because all of the resonsibility is on you. my baby doesnt have a father so i dont know what its like to share that responsibility
Reply:Yes you are right, but then there is time's when my 9 year old does not listen to me, that's when I wish, he was here to step
in to discipline her. Other then that I am satisfiy to raise her by
myself. I don't have a problem with that. My 22 year old daughter scolds
her when she come over or when we are at their Apt. and I just
kick back and listen.
Reply:I have been both a single parent and now a married parent... I never asked for permission to do as I chose I am an adult and need no ones permission...
There are upsides and down sides to being both a single and married parent... As a single parent there is never a break when someone else is completely incharge... Even with a babysitter you are still giving instructions.. As a married parent sometimes it difficult to show a united front...
If my husband were always undermining me and making it more difficult to be a parent I would leave... There is no reason to stay with someone who clearly doesn't respect you as an adult and treat you as such...
It sounds vry cliche but it's true... Children learn what they live... Are the lessons your children are leaning in your home the lessons you want them to inact when they are adults? If not things need to change and sometimes that change means seperation and divorce...
It is far better for a child to grow up in a stable single parent home than in a married home with fighting and disrespect etc.
Reply:Being a single mom was hard at times. I have a son and many times I wished his dad was in his life on a regular basis, but I enjoyed raising him and taking pride in the fact that he is now 23 years old and one heck of a wonderful human being. I am always in favor of two parent households, but I also know it can be successfully done by one parent with alot of love and patience.
Reply:~I've been both and having a husband to help raise our child was so much easier! After I left, I found I was unable to handle our daughter and took parenting classes so I wouldn't spank her, (she was too little). I didn't have my husband to back up what I told her to do, or not to do.
Now I bear the burden of having to do absolutely everything while he's out womanizing and not even paying Child Support. I know that in the end, I'll have a clear conscience of knowing I did my part.
You and your husband need to see a counselor. The child has learned, or will learn, that he can play one against the other and not have any consequences. I'm so sorry to hear that.~
Reply:I have been a "single mom" for 5 years now, and I love it. But I must say my daughters stepdad lives in the next house so we are both aktive in her life. I dont miss having another child in the house who cant pickup his underwear or who does not know how to the garbage out.
It looks like you are fustrated with your hubby. You will need to have a long talk with him. But I must say from my experience (my kids dad died when she was 2 1/2) a child needs a male figure in there lives. Good fathers give their children that part of life that we women can not show them.
So talk to your hubby and tell him whats fustrating you and that if it does not change, you will change it for him.
Good Luck
Reply:I am technically a single mom. I have a boyfriend that helps me, but my sons real father has never met his child. IT IS NEVER EASY. When my son is upset, I can't help but resent that fact that his father has left everything up to me. To wish that you were a single parent is wrong. A baby needs both parents in it's life, and doing it alone, while it can work, it is NEVER easy. I struggle each and every day to do the best for my child. I struggle each and every day to show him twice as much love, to make up for his father not being here. EVERY DAY I try to get his real father involved. My boyfriend tries his hardest to show my son a fathers love. It is a lot harder to be a single parent that to be partners.
Reply:If your husband always goes against you in parenting then there are issues that NEED to be addressed and soon. My ex husband didn't go against what I said in as much as he really didn't pay attention. Yes my life as a mom became MUCH easier when I became single again. I was able to parent more effectively.
I mean you dont have to ask anyone if (....)is ok to do, you dont need permission from the babies dad, you are the boss, you make all the descisions in your kids life.
Im not a single mom, but I think it would be easier as a single mom...esp, if your husband ALWAYS went against you like mine does...
Just to spite you.
Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?
its hard because all of the resonsibility is on you. my baby doesnt have a father so i dont know what its like to share that responsibility
Reply:Yes you are right, but then there is time's when my 9 year old does not listen to me, that's when I wish, he was here to step
in to discipline her. Other then that I am satisfiy to raise her by
myself. I don't have a problem with that. My 22 year old daughter scolds
her when she come over or when we are at their Apt. and I just
kick back and listen.
Reply:I have been both a single parent and now a married parent... I never asked for permission to do as I chose I am an adult and need no ones permission...
There are upsides and down sides to being both a single and married parent... As a single parent there is never a break when someone else is completely incharge... Even with a babysitter you are still giving instructions.. As a married parent sometimes it difficult to show a united front...
If my husband were always undermining me and making it more difficult to be a parent I would leave... There is no reason to stay with someone who clearly doesn't respect you as an adult and treat you as such...
It sounds vry cliche but it's true... Children learn what they live... Are the lessons your children are leaning in your home the lessons you want them to inact when they are adults? If not things need to change and sometimes that change means seperation and divorce...
It is far better for a child to grow up in a stable single parent home than in a married home with fighting and disrespect etc.
Reply:Being a single mom was hard at times. I have a son and many times I wished his dad was in his life on a regular basis, but I enjoyed raising him and taking pride in the fact that he is now 23 years old and one heck of a wonderful human being. I am always in favor of two parent households, but I also know it can be successfully done by one parent with alot of love and patience.
Reply:~I've been both and having a husband to help raise our child was so much easier! After I left, I found I was unable to handle our daughter and took parenting classes so I wouldn't spank her, (she was too little). I didn't have my husband to back up what I told her to do, or not to do.
Now I bear the burden of having to do absolutely everything while he's out womanizing and not even paying Child Support. I know that in the end, I'll have a clear conscience of knowing I did my part.
You and your husband need to see a counselor. The child has learned, or will learn, that he can play one against the other and not have any consequences. I'm so sorry to hear that.~
Reply:I have been a "single mom" for 5 years now, and I love it. But I must say my daughters stepdad lives in the next house so we are both aktive in her life. I dont miss having another child in the house who cant pickup his underwear or who does not know how to the garbage out.
It looks like you are fustrated with your hubby. You will need to have a long talk with him. But I must say from my experience (my kids dad died when she was 2 1/2) a child needs a male figure in there lives. Good fathers give their children that part of life that we women can not show them.
So talk to your hubby and tell him whats fustrating you and that if it does not change, you will change it for him.
Good Luck
Reply:I am technically a single mom. I have a boyfriend that helps me, but my sons real father has never met his child. IT IS NEVER EASY. When my son is upset, I can't help but resent that fact that his father has left everything up to me. To wish that you were a single parent is wrong. A baby needs both parents in it's life, and doing it alone, while it can work, it is NEVER easy. I struggle each and every day to do the best for my child. I struggle each and every day to show him twice as much love, to make up for his father not being here. EVERY DAY I try to get his real father involved. My boyfriend tries his hardest to show my son a fathers love. It is a lot harder to be a single parent that to be partners.
Reply:If your husband always goes against you in parenting then there are issues that NEED to be addressed and soon. My ex husband didn't go against what I said in as much as he really didn't pay attention. Yes my life as a mom became MUCH easier when I became single again. I was able to parent more effectively.
Single mom benefits..?
Im a single mom and I live in Puerto Rico (territory of the USA) and i want to come to the states to have a better life what laws protect me and what benefits do i get been a single mom who has never been in the states b4??
thanks a lot i really appreciate your help! :-)
-single desesperate mom
Single mom benefits..?
If you are a single mom in Puerto Rico, why are you doing a high school project on the 2nd Amendment?
Reply:I am not sure i understand the question, i don't know of any benefits you will receive just because you are a single mom. Or any laws that protect you because you are a single mom. Perhaps you should contact an attorney if you are desperate. God bless
dental hygiene
thanks a lot i really appreciate your help! :-)
-single desesperate mom
Single mom benefits..?
If you are a single mom in Puerto Rico, why are you doing a high school project on the 2nd Amendment?
Reply:I am not sure i understand the question, i don't know of any benefits you will receive just because you are a single mom. Or any laws that protect you because you are a single mom. Perhaps you should contact an attorney if you are desperate. God bless
dental hygiene
Single Locking or Double Locking Floyd Rose Bridge?
I was thinking about getting a Floyd Rose Trem bridge and I wanted to know the difference between single locking and double locking. Besides easy string installation for the single locking and price, what other advantages and disadvantages are there for the single locking? How does it compare to double locking?
Single Locking or Double Locking Floyd Rose Bridge?
Depends on what you've got planned. I'd prefer double locking because it allows you to get really wild, while retaining your tuning. Double locking trem.
Single Locking or Double Locking Floyd Rose Bridge?
Depends on what you've got planned. I'd prefer double locking because it allows you to get really wild, while retaining your tuning. Double locking trem.
Single parents.. the "talk"?
As a single mother I have talked to my son about the Birds %26amp; bees and found it to be pretty easy. My question is for other single mothers was it easy for you to teach your sons about the facts of life or hard? And for the single fathers raising girls, was it tough for you to have the "talk"? I don't see a problem with it but some people say a mother shouldn't teach a son and same for a father teaching a daughter. What's your view?
Single parents.. the "talk"?
My daughter is 11 and I have talked to her about puberty. Some of it went into the sex talk. I am a single dad and their mother is nowhere around for the kids. So, I am dad and mom. No it was pretty easy.
Reply:I think when circumstances do not allow the father to talk to his son or the other way round for the mother then I'm afraid you have no choice. At the end of the day it's the parents responsibility. Most people avoid the 'talk' as its easier but when questions are asked then answers must be provided for.
I think you've done really well talking to your son.
I've not had the privilege of having children yet but when it's my turn I won't hesitate to do the 'talk'.
Reply:I haven't quite gotten to that with my son yet but I'm sure it will be easy since I am able to explain a wide variety of things to him and he feels comfortable asking me.
I think the single parent should do the job even if of the opposite sex. Who else is closer to your child than you? It may be a good idea to tell the child they can discuss it further with a same sex relative if they feel like they want to, but the parent should do the initial talk.
Reply:Well. I have a while to teach my son about that. He knows what his private part is called and he knows that only boys have it. When the time comes I am sure that he will have more questions about it and I think that single moms are fine answering any questions the kids may have about the birds and the bees. Who else is going to do it? I am glad that I have an open mind about this subject and that my parents never talked about it, because it was a taboo subject for them. It is whoever is available and whomever they are more comfortable to talk to about the subject.
Single parents.. the "talk"?
My daughter is 11 and I have talked to her about puberty. Some of it went into the sex talk. I am a single dad and their mother is nowhere around for the kids. So, I am dad and mom. No it was pretty easy.
Reply:I think when circumstances do not allow the father to talk to his son or the other way round for the mother then I'm afraid you have no choice. At the end of the day it's the parents responsibility. Most people avoid the 'talk' as its easier but when questions are asked then answers must be provided for.
I think you've done really well talking to your son.
I've not had the privilege of having children yet but when it's my turn I won't hesitate to do the 'talk'.
Reply:I haven't quite gotten to that with my son yet but I'm sure it will be easy since I am able to explain a wide variety of things to him and he feels comfortable asking me.
I think the single parent should do the job even if of the opposite sex. Who else is closer to your child than you? It may be a good idea to tell the child they can discuss it further with a same sex relative if they feel like they want to, but the parent should do the initial talk.
Reply:Well. I have a while to teach my son about that. He knows what his private part is called and he knows that only boys have it. When the time comes I am sure that he will have more questions about it and I think that single moms are fine answering any questions the kids may have about the birds and the bees. Who else is going to do it? I am glad that I have an open mind about this subject and that my parents never talked about it, because it was a taboo subject for them. It is whoever is available and whomever they are more comfortable to talk to about the subject.
Single mothers?
Does anyone else have a problem with single mothers who: [let me say I do not think this of all single mothers; just the ones who are really out to scam the system)
1. Have kids and expect us tax payers to support them
2. Have kids to the same man over and over whilst still collecting the pension
3. Seem to always have money to go out on 'pension week' to pick up a man, but then end up at charities the following week to get help paying their bills
4. Are seen every pension week buy a new outfit for themselves while their kids run around looking grotty
I have tried asking this question before but Yahoo removed it - I hope this gets through, because I really would like another persons perspective - maybe a single mothers point of veiw.
Single mothers?
I raised my son as a single mother. I DO get annoyed at the type of single mom you describe. I worked my tail off, didn't have public assistance and watched so many others just kick back, and use the system. I was worn out, but until he was 16, I never had a time when I worked one job. It was always 2 and sometimes 3, and I had several jobs that allowed me to bring him with me. I wasn't trying to let some babysitter raise him. Granted, that's not the ideal thing...but I think that it's much easier to 'help' someone with public assistance, if they're willing to help themselves. Those who refuse and do nothing, need to be forced to participate in their own support!
Like I said...I didn't have public assistance, but I wouldn't be against it, IF the people who were on it and able to work, would take some initiative. I also think deadbeat fathers should be forced to help support their kids. Just because they CAN walk away, doesn't mean they should be allowed.
Reply:Some things i have to say.. If it a single mother due to the divorce or death of the husband, the by all means we should be able to support them (and if the mother is smart, none of this will happen) BUT if it is a single mother due to being a stripper or something and having a kid by having sex with Joe Schmoe then never seeing him again, then we should not support. ( someone like this might be seen doing the things on the list) Hope this helps!
If it's the second mother i mentioned, then if they do all of that, then yes, they are annoying. But there are single mothers out there that work their butts off to make sure that their children can have a healthy lifestyle.
1. Have kids and expect us tax payers to support them
2. Have kids to the same man over and over whilst still collecting the pension
3. Seem to always have money to go out on 'pension week' to pick up a man, but then end up at charities the following week to get help paying their bills
4. Are seen every pension week buy a new outfit for themselves while their kids run around looking grotty
I have tried asking this question before but Yahoo removed it - I hope this gets through, because I really would like another persons perspective - maybe a single mothers point of veiw.
Single mothers?
I raised my son as a single mother. I DO get annoyed at the type of single mom you describe. I worked my tail off, didn't have public assistance and watched so many others just kick back, and use the system. I was worn out, but until he was 16, I never had a time when I worked one job. It was always 2 and sometimes 3, and I had several jobs that allowed me to bring him with me. I wasn't trying to let some babysitter raise him. Granted, that's not the ideal thing...but I think that it's much easier to 'help' someone with public assistance, if they're willing to help themselves. Those who refuse and do nothing, need to be forced to participate in their own support!
Like I said...I didn't have public assistance, but I wouldn't be against it, IF the people who were on it and able to work, would take some initiative. I also think deadbeat fathers should be forced to help support their kids. Just because they CAN walk away, doesn't mean they should be allowed.
Reply:Some things i have to say.. If it a single mother due to the divorce or death of the husband, the by all means we should be able to support them (and if the mother is smart, none of this will happen) BUT if it is a single mother due to being a stripper or something and having a kid by having sex with Joe Schmoe then never seeing him again, then we should not support. ( someone like this might be seen doing the things on the list) Hope this helps!
If it's the second mother i mentioned, then if they do all of that, then yes, they are annoying. But there are single mothers out there that work their butts off to make sure that their children can have a healthy lifestyle.
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