Single Parents?

Are there any single parents out there??





I became a single parent when I found out I was pregnant.. My sons father didnt want to know.





I find coping with this alone hard work and really needed some support. So I set up a single parent website to bring the single parents together, to help each other, ask advice, offer support.





If you are a single parent and interested in joining then please go to http://www.singletown.co.uk





Thanks


Kali


Single Town - Bringing single parents together.

Single Parents?
Thanks for the tip. Good luck.
Reply:i am very proud of you. how can anybody abandon there child is beyond me. but then that's he sad loss. hope you find somebody that you deserved. the very best off luck.
Reply:I hope this is making you stronger. Wish it had been around when I was raiseing my 4 children alone!
Reply:Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs to do in Life and being a single one is harder still. Having said this however, when one's child or children turn out to be very nice adults and making their way in Life, it is so rewarding despite all the ups-and-downs.





I was a single mum in the seventies and at the time Gingerbread was just starting although I did not know it at the time. I set up a One Parent Association too and I found it very worthwhile just as you will with yours. It certainly is one way of discovering you have strengths you may not have thought you had - I know I did. It was also very encouraging to other mums and dads on their own when they discovered they weren't the only ones in this position.





One thing I did to help me through this difficult time was to make a pact with myself to be positive and constructive in word, thought and deed. Then I had to find inner courage and determination to see it through and at the time, I had none. I asked people who knew me not to sympathise with me but instead to be supportive and encouraging.





Later on, someone told me I did not behave like a divorced woman and when enquiring why, she said I was not bitter or resentful or angry towards my former husband. As I told her, I was determined to go back to my old self but I had to work hard at it. This was thirty years ago now and today, both my sons are in their forties. One has a family of his own and both are self-employed and being successful.





As for you today, make sure you get financial support from your child's father. If needs be, seek legal advice about this - don't forget the Citizens Advice Bureau is a marvellous source of information which is up-dated regularly. Contact Gingerbread as well. There are others that you can find details on the internet.





I do wish you success in all you are doing as a parent and also being able to support others. You will find that because other single parents are unsure of how to cope, you will find out the answers to some of their questions, Because of this, you will grow into a much stronger person.





To enable your son to be proud of you, keep interested and interesting - I did this when my boys were in school. They did not want to hear what their Mum had been doing daily of a domestic nature and so it was, I did all sorts of interesting but unpaid activities. Although not technically minded, I went round the hospital wards on a Saturday afternoon to collect the music requests for the Hospital Sunday Request programme, helped a local printer with those mundane but important jobs that needed doing, was the Clerk of Parish Council for a year. Just being involved in something helped me enormously.





Good luck with your endeavours.