There are a plethora of programs for single moms. Not much for single dads. It seems as though women wear this "single mom" thing for attention, sympathy, etc.
I am a single dad. Why do we not hear that much about single dads? We hear plenty about single moms!?
ye totally Stallion - you go for it
Men's lib to day we are but a few
Reply:normally the mother gets custody of the child when there is a breakup..you are rare..like a unicorn galloping through a flower filled meadow..his horn glistening in the sun after a brief spring shower..so there
Reply:hay thats not fair we dont all choose to be single mums you know.
fair play to you on being a single dad thee arent man of you around as you say cos most guys piss off when they find out the girl is pregnant or when the kid is born cos thry cant cope.
it takes a good man and a strong man to be a father so good for you.
Reply:we apologize. but please consider that single moms FAR outnumber single dads. i think you can still take part in the single mom programs, and single dad support groups online.
Reply:I commend you on being a single parent, and as sad as it is to say there are No programs for Single Fathers. I personally do not *wear* a sign that says " I am a single mother, please help me to be a charity case and receive donations." Some women do I am sure, is it every single mothers fault....No! I actually cannot stand when ppl say Oh, I got it, you are a single mom save your money. Yeah, I am a single mom, but I make my own money and do not receive a dime from the father or the state. I don't whine and cry about it either, my son is my responsibility and I will do what I have to do, for us.
I, seriously, agree with what you are saying, I think there should be programs out there for the Fathers as well. It is not fair that the Moms are *catered* to, per say, and the Dads receive no congrats or support. I truly commend you for raising your child(ren) by yourself, as for my personal experience and where I live, I see alot of deadbeat dads.......so Congrats to you and for putting the word out there for other Single Fathers just trying to be heard.
Reply:There are a whole lot more single moms.
Reply:not true that single moms are looking for attention - just looking for some respect - i know many a married women that cheats on her husband because she is not happy, but is not willing to give up the house, the paycheck, the lifestyle %26amp; they have their husbands watch the kids while they go off with the boyfriends and lie to their husbands about going shopping or out with the girls for the nite - i chose to divorce my husband %26amp; knew it would not be easy, having sole physical custody of my kids, but i did it for my sanity and their's. i will only go out one weekend nite so i can spend the rest of my weekend with my kids. also if i cannot find someone suitable to stay with my kids, i will not go out - i have turned down plenty of dates for that very reason - i think that makes me a much more respectful mother than the one who is screwing around behind her husband's back - why don't you step up to the plate and start a single dad program - how do you think these things get started anyway? do you want some woman to start it for you? also, have you tried "parents without partners"? that is for all parents, not just moms - sounds like your whining is not very valid.
Reply:good for you! single dad's aren't as common, but they do exist. before my fiance and i got together, i was a single mom, and he was a single dad. his ex wife is a dead beat mom that isn't paying her court ordered child support, how's that for a twist? anyway, i can understand why you feel that way about single mom's trying to get attention, sadly some of them really are like that, but that's really a small percentage of them. as a single mom, i was really scared, the dad was worthless, both as a father and as a human being. but with the love and support of my friends and family, i got through it, and either fate or dumb luck has brought this wonderful man into my life. i wish luck and happiness to you and your child.
Reply:Your a rarity, truly in the minority when it comes to parenting, that's why you don't find many programs. Go to a single parenting seminar for women maybe you'll learn something anyway.
Reply:I don't think single moms are looking for attention or sympathy, they just want some support, like you do. It's just there aren't as many men that take on the responsibility of single parenthood like you did.
Reply:I have to agree with you to a point. The situation is that most organisations having to do with children and a single parent don't approve of men as a parent. The sad fact is they look for excuses to take children from their fathers and put them in single mother foster homes. They deliberately break up entire families on lies, coarsens and deceitfulness, take the children, make demands of divorces and destroy the men's reputations forever. Any Christian family are especially at risk of these government covered organisations.
You would do better in listing help from your church if you have one. See if you can locate a single parent's advocate to assist you in your area. But don't be surprised to find the advocate to be a woman.
Because you are a single dad your children may be questioned continuously about things that go on at home. Things that may be worded to create problems for you that wouldn't have been a problem a few years ago, but because of the Whaa Syndrome people in charge viewing everything as dirty and inappropriate behaviour because they all have dirty filthy minds and misguided beliefs about men or are out for vengeance against some bad thing they think some man had done to them as a child and want all men to suffer for it seem determine to take men out of the picture for children all together.
God Bless and Good Luck.
Reply:No....my child's dad left us..when he found out I was pregnant. That is not sympathy driven. It's tough. I got pregnant at 21...my family did not support me at all...actually my dad disowned me. So...without an education ...poor, no family support...single...and with a child...man bright future, hugh?
Reply:Its about time there were some single dads. Women have been bearing the burden for a long time so there is nothing wrong with the shoe being on the other foot.
Reply:Knocked up out of wedlock or bad choice in husband or failure at marriage is something to be proud of?
Reply:I commend you !
Reply:no we single mom's don't wear anything for attention.. you don't find single dads cause not many are willing to step up and take control and custody of the kids, most men run
Reply:My son is 24. He is the custodial parent of a 4 year old girl. If I wasn't there for some of the stuff. I am not sure how he would have managed. She had to be in a dressing room with lots of little girls and moms for dance. He couldn't come in so I had to be there to change her. He's had many instances like this and many more to come. That's an issue a mom never faces.
Reply:SO SAD,
I hope you are not caring for a daughter and God help him if it is a son.
Please don't talk down about your ex to your child.
Reply:If you are a single dad and you need support, try parents without partners.
There are programs for single parents custodial or not, because men rarely have sole custody, there are fewer nationally know established programs.
Time for you to start something, dude.
Reply:More women end up caring for their children and have limited incomes etc. and need help. There are more single moms than dads. Maybe you should start a program decitated to single dads.
Reply:Around here we don't have much for single anybodys! I have lots of single dad friends and they've never mentioned this. I don't appreciate your remark... I don't "wear" anything for attention, sympathy, etc. Sounds like you may be doing it though?? Good luck and God bless you. ~Nise~
Reply:Do something about it. If there is a program available to single moms that you want to be a part of, join. Change the rules. Be a role model for your children by showing them that one person can make a difference and that it is better to take action than to complain.
Don't go the "they do it for attention or sympathy" route bud, being a single PARENT is the toughest, least rewarding, job in the world and the one which deserves the most attention and sympathy that society can show.
Reply:The courts favor kids to stay with their mothers unlkess they cannot offer the financial support orthey are known to be abusive to the kids or self destructive (Alcoholic or drug abuser)
Reply:Are you wanting attention %26amp; sympathy too? I was single mom %26amp; it is very hard! I didn't ask for sympathy or attention, I was very proud of myself. I'm a strong willed person %26amp; I think that has alot to do with it. I am sick of hearing women whining about being a single mom, Like they are the only one's in the whole world who has problems, Please, But if you want sympathy %26amp; attention, I will be more than happy to give it to you!....also, according to your answer about the "blow up" dolls, no wonder you're single, did you kick your ex to the curb for a younger model? B*st*rd!
Reply:Really, your duties are the same, and both men and women have to work, so good question!
Guess it's harder to imagine a single Dad, since most single dad's are the ones to run off in the first place.
I commend your efforts to raise your own children! (Does that help)?
Reply:I promise you that in all the single mom events, they'd love nothing more than a single dad to be among them for a change. They're sick of seeing women at these things and you'll be a very welcome change. How great for you! think of the ratio that's in your favor. Also who doesn't especially love a great single dad who's caring for his kids and loves them instead of the deadbeats they're used to seeing. Go, get out there and enjoy yourself!
Reply:In our gender neutral society you should be able to take advantage of any program meant for single parents!
There are so many more single mothers than father!
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