Understanding and wooing a single mother? Please help! Especially any single moms out there!?

Let me start by saying that I am not a 14 yr old that has never approached a woman or had an adult relationship. With that said I have a female friend who is a single mother of 3. We have always had a good friendship and a good connection. Recently I have had an interest in dating her and I am pretty sure she is interested too. I need help though! Is it harder or different to connect with a single mom when it comes to dating? And how do I show her that I am ok with the fact that she has kids and know that they would be part of a long term relationship? Thanks in advance for the help especially single moms! Also if you have a negative opinion of single moms and their situation without any real dating experience with them please keep your thoughts and answers to yourself. Im not interested in your political or moral views on this subject. Just help from people who may have been there and have had either a positive or negative experience with it.

Understanding and wooing a single mother? Please help! Especially any single moms out there!?
First of all, i am a single mother (of 3). I bet she is worried that you might be a little nervous about her being a single mom. The best thing that you can do is let her know that you are there for her, and her kids. Just remember that a mother, especially with 3 kids is extremely busy. Try planning something for the both of you to do with the kids, include them in everything, and she will see that you are wanting her and the kids, not just her. I give you a lot of respect for being such a good guy, and wanting to be part of their lives. I know as a single mom, it means a lot to know that there are guys out there who look beyond single motherhood, and realize that mom is still a person. Good luck to you! And make sure you treat her like a queen, i know shes gotta have a lot of weight on her shoulders with the kids.
Reply:I am a single mom and let me tell you that, dating is harder with children then it ever was without. The children are a critical part of her life, and the best way to "woo" her is you have to be capable of fitting into her life, and never make her feel like they are a problem. You sound like you know her and them, and if you get along with them then do what feels natural. If you have not been on a real "date" together make the first one a kid oriented date. Go to a pizza place or something like that. If you have already done things like that, take her on a real adult date. Dont address actually dating, just assume that if you both want it that you step right into it. The more nature feeling it is, the less stressful it is and the more you woo her.
Reply:Depends on a few things. Is she looking for a dad? It's not harder or different, but you have to realize from the start that the best you could ever do is run a close fourth as far as her heart. Moms aren't keen on bringing in guys at the start. For a good reason too. Best way to approach it is to tell her. Acknowledge that her kids will always come first (except for the rare occassion where a sitter can be arranged) and be ok with that. Offer to be in their life when she's ready....i.e. after a few months, Jr. needs a ride to the game, offer to take him, or go with them. If she's looking for someone to provide her and her family with a better opportunity, she will let you know. Sounds like she's proud and doesn't want the handout. Thats respectable. If you do start dating, expect last minute cancellations, adaptations to previous plans (dinner n a movie turns into a Disney flick on DVD on the couch QUICK) and the occasional babysit (don't expect that early on). I've had positive experiences and negative ones with single moms. As the relationship progresses, you will have to deal with the children issues like discipline, etc. Single moms are people with needs, but they've learned to put other needs first. Don't play games with her and it should be fine. Good luck