Monday, April 12, 2010

Single parents, would you be outraged at this?

I wa chrsitmas shopping in Bath yesterday when I saw a t shirt which read "I support single mothers" this would have been fine apart from the fact it was written under the image of a naked pole dancer, depicting the "typical" single mother. Women become single paretns for many different reasons and this kind of attitude towards us is degrading and unacceptable. I was outraged, do any of you feel the same way?

Single parents, would you be outraged at this?
i agree with you completely, i'm due to have my baby any day now..and found myself facing up to life as a single mother 10 days ago when my fiance walked out on me...attitudes towards single mothers does upset me the majority of us dont choose to bring up our babies alone i thought i was starting a family with my man and baby how wrong was i ?


i have a good job and can support my baby on own financially as many of us single mums do.
Reply:i expect the married women are that are depicted in cardigans and slippers! It's a laugh not an insult- and i support single mum's - my sister is one and my mum!
Reply:there are many reasons why people become single parents and one of the least likely is because they are a pole dancer they dont have babys for a living they dance round a pole.


lets have a bit of respect for the single parents who do a great job and also for the pole dancers they are people just the same as the rest and can live there life how ever they choose.


And only people who dont know **** about **** would make coments like a couple on here mentioning no names !!
Reply:That's an awful message.





Probably coined by a deadbeat dad.
Reply:I am a single mom. And, I do understand stupid T-Shirts!





It doesn't offend me really. I guess it's just like a TV show that I don't like.... I just don't watch it. Thier are idiots out there and nothing will ever change that.





I really never try to get defensive about things. It's just wasted energy, that I'd rather turn toward something positive.
Reply:I think you should chill out %26amp; not worry about it,if that is all you have to worry about then single parenthood cant be that hard for you.
Reply:thats just ridiculous!!! i dont blame you for feeling that way!!! i am not even a mom but i definetly understand how insulting it is!! i would say hats off to single moms for going through so much to bring up their kids. they dont need this!!!they dont deserve this!!!
Reply:people have to do what every it take to support there family


do you have any ideal how much a stripper make if she is good at what she does in the thousand every month.
Reply:Ok I was a single mom and sadly my body did not hold up well enough to do that kind of job and I don't know that I could have done it even if it had.


However, don't waste your time being offended by the idiot that was wearing it instead take pity on him it seems that he missed a few of his visitation days with his brain cell this year........As my kid brother used to say its all fun and games til someone loses an eye (or someone gets their feelings hurt) and besides what goes around comes around the wearer will get his in the end...
Reply:I understand why your upset but dont understand why you waste your time on negative feelings. This world is getting too "pc". We are lucky to live in a country where free speech is encouraged. We are living in a time where it is unacceptable to say anything about anyone. Of course any woman can become a single mother through different circumstances. You know this and so do millions of other people. T shirts like this are printed to provoke a reaction. I personnaly dont like the FCUK logo as it just makes you think of the other word, but I would never waste negative energy getting outraged about it.
Reply:Some people just have a sense of humourectomy.


Lighten up.


Look what happens when you can't make jokes about something ie Muslims and the Prophet, for example.


Next step, thought police or a little man with toothbrush moustache killing millions of people he doesn't like.


Freedom of speech.


Not freedom from insult.
Reply:well,.. its like this,.. if you don't like it,.. don't buy it





its called free speech,.. its the same things that allows us to put opinions on here no matter how wrong or right, and hope we don't get ridiculed, attacked, or ribbed for them *cough Cough* your jumping down megans throat *cough*





you asked a question,. megan gave an opinion,.. is it fact? no.... but its her right to say it... just like its yours to not like the shirt and post about it here....





everyone has there own opinions on everything.... like me for example,...





if i were a woman,. i wouldn't have any kids,. but i would still strip,.. because it pays real good and requires little time and effort! ah to dream....... :D





edit: oh,.. i totally hear you,. and i totally agree,.. i just thought maybe you were slightly hard on her is all
Reply:Yoyo, "Judge ye not lest ye be judged." I am not religious but that certainly rings true. I admire decent single mothers for the struggles they overcome and I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:I'm a single mum of 3. The father recently ran off to another country after assaulting me %26amp; my eldest son. I agree this is really disguting. Think the person who made it should try living the life of a single parent before passing judgement %26amp; stereotyping :-(
Reply:that is a bit much for a tshirt but some women do actually have to strip to take care of there child
Reply:I am not a lone parent but my dad was when I was growing up. It's not just mums that can be lone parents. It doesn't matter what class or status we belong to, we will always judge others in some way. My dad taught me to not worry about what other people think of me, as we are all not perfect and can all make mistakes. He also said the best thing to do is see the funny side of everything.
Reply:I used to work in a pub and some of the guys used to say it was the single mother's home, implying all the barmaids were single mums on the pull and looking for a man. It is really hard being a single mum. It was my husband who buggered off, I never thought I would be living the life I am now. I can't see many men buying this t shirt and wearing it to be honest. It makes me laugh at how the politicians say they want 'family ethics' as if they are going to 'crack down' on us poor single mums as if we are a disease, when in fact the politicians themself cannot stay faithful their wives. Good example they are. The reason most women are single mums is because the man has left them that way. Don't you think?
Reply:I can see why you would take offence to this, but I really think you are letting it get to you. Just brush it off as a stupid, ill informed comment and move on. If we get outraged at everything we see, hear and read that offends us it would really cast a very dark shadow on our lives.


I am a single father, but will dance for cash.
Reply:I am disgusted by Megans comments, I really hope she never finds herself in the difficult situation some single mothers face.





The T-shirt doesn't upset me as it is obviously is made by someone with a very warped sense of humour, I saw one in the shops the other day which was only made in the size XXL saying I beat Anorexia! It makes me cringe and feel very sorry for our society that that is classed as fashion or humour.
Reply:I was a single mom for a long time and I am totally outraged by that. I worked as a waitress and went to school to try to give my son a better home.
Reply:yes i am outraged because although im engaged to my daughters father and we're expecting our second we're not looked at as being together. i don't strip and would never consider stripping. i work in a law firm and go to school. if i was to ever see a guy or girl wear that shirt i'd probably flip out.
Reply:lol, I find it amusing.





Just like I find the shirt "Birth control is for sissies" amusing. And "I can grow people, what can you do" shirt that I own is my favorite.





I know a couple single moms, and i know atleast one of them would gladly sport that pole dancer shirt, just because of the humor in it, especially since she's not a man.





Gear down there big shifter, I dont think it was meant to be that offensive, although i can certainly see how it is.
Reply:Do not be affected! Be strong in yourself, be independent, be self-sufficient. The shirt simply showed how "studip" the wearer was...it did nothing to make you LESS of a person as a single parent!





The wearer wanted to elicit a response... no response equals no satisfaction.





Remember, how you react to the shirt also tells him what kind of person you are...are you doubtfull, defensive?


Or are you un-touchable?
Reply:I'm not a single mom, but that would still upset me.
Reply:i think its disgusting as you say there are all different reasons why women become single mum's and no matter what job you take to support your child at least your out there working and not relying on the social to pay for them. some of the people who have replyed to you on here need to have a good look at themselves and the kind of people they are to give such small minded answers lets hope to god they are not bringing up children with those attitudes.
Reply:This is only a t-shirt. I know myself how hard being a single mother is. It is a lot of work. I hold down a job, have 2 children aged 1 and 2 with no support from my family. I'm only 19 years old. The t-shirt I assume is supposed to be of humorous nature.
Reply:It's completely unacceptable.





How about a t shirt that features Ebeneezer Scrooge hugging bags of coins to his shirt running away from a police officer with the caption "I support single fathers".
Reply:if i were Polish i may be offended by it ..........but i`m not....so i am not.
Reply:I think it is the wrong impression to give, personally the idea of a pole dancer gives the image of single mumbeing a bit of a "slapper". however although a lot of people do get pregnant from one night stands etc i know of some who were (or thought they were) in a good relationship and it just broke after the baby was born. babies are often seen as a way to make a relationship stronger although in reality they make them so much harder!


Its a shame that people can be narrow minded but its a fact of life. Lets just hope that most people dont think all single mums are pole dancers.


I am married to my daughters father and we are very happy so before someone goes ranting im probably a single mum, im not and im glad because i have the greatest respect for them i dont think i could do it, the pressure is monumental!
Reply:nope cuz most the time its true.....





Truth hurts dont be pissed about it cuz someone talks about it or makes a shirt
Reply:lmfao


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