Still single in NYC?

I'm turning 30 next week and I'm still single. I'm Ivy League educated, have my own apartment, work, I do yoga, travel often,I'm very creative, honest, and have only been intimate with one man. I was with him for 6 years and it's been two years since he left me for someone else and I have not been even on one date. I go to concerts and try to go out as much as possible but nothing. I'm fit and most people think that I'm attractive. Have you ever been single or know someone who's been single for more than 2 years? Do you think that's normal?

Still single in NYC?
I was single for almost two years at one point in my life. NYC is a rough town to be single in too(been there, done that!); and it is even harder when you have not been in the dating scene for a while. Think about it: while everyone was out there playing the field in their early and mid-twenties, you were in a relationship. I think it is also somewhat smart of you to have been on your own for the past two years. You find yourself again and if you are not grounded, then what good would another relationship be?





And as for "normal" . . . your fine. I have given up on that word and concept . . . especially in NYC. To each his own. No one is normal. we all have our issues and we all follow our own path in life whether it looks like the next person's or not doesn't make it necessarily the wrong or odd path to walk. Did that make sense??





Good luck and enjoy yourself, above all else. Everything will fall into place. It may not be when you want it, or when you expect it.
Reply:baby, that perfectly normal. there's nothing wrong with being single at 30. its just a matter of time until u'll find somebody. all good things happan to those who wait. hey, add me to your msn if u have one or just email me back. would love to knw more about u.
Reply:There is nothing unusual about being 30 and single in NYC for two years. While I applaud you on your accomplishments, nowhere in your piece did you mention any of the emotional qualities important to being one half of a romantic couple. If your only consideration and focus are the things you mention in your story, is it any wonder you 're still single. Although a good education, your own apartment, and a job are important, they are not the emotionally bonding qualities necessary for a relationship. My suggestion to you is to: 1)Indulge in some introspection and discover the qualities you want in a life partner. 2) Find out your qualities which you are going to offer the other person in your life 3) Discover the compromises you are willing to make to have a happy romance, in what areas and how much; for example educational, monetary, and physical accommodations you are willing to make. 4) The goals you want for that romance-- does it include marriage, and children(how many), religious needs and so on. The minute you have the answers to some or all of the questions above, then focus on them and start going out on dates in order to meet guys with whom you could build that relationship. I wish you the best and please do not forget to send me a wedding invitation at the appropriate time.
Reply:Hello? I lived in NYC for 12 years and didn't move out until I met my husband there; I was 35, he was 29.





NYC is the WORST place to meet committed men. Oh yes, they are around; all the really cute, determined, hot, men.





I learned when I was there (and I continued to sleep with men there all through my 20's and into my early 30's, then I gave up a little); that men in NYC are there for mostly one thing: career.





Oh yes, they like women, but they don't want to settle down. NYC doesn't foster marriage or commitment, it's too crazy and fast-paced. LIke you, they are ambitious and have a huge pond of pretty women to pick from. They have left their core families and don't value marriage, etc.





Don't mean to be negative, but been there done that. The only reason ONE of the men I finally ended up with wanted to marry me was because he was born there and his parents lived there and it was a HOME situation.





And yes, I've gone as much as 3 years without sex; we're smart and we get picky.





DD
Reply:It is normal. There are many people who because of circumstances still haven't met someone. You seem to be approaching it well though, going out and mingling. What is obvious from what you've stated is that you're a relationship type of person, not a serial dater and that makes a difference in how you look at things. Keep looking and I hope you find someone!
Reply:that is totally normal, Ur Mr right will come , nothing happens before its time so don't beat urself up he is on his way....