Monday, April 12, 2010

Single full time dad trying to get back into dating?

I am a single full time dad I have been single for 2 years, I know this might sound wussy but, getting back in the dating world is kina scary, you have to think about whats best for your kids, My son is 2 years old very important to me, trying to find someone who is compatable or even trying to ask someone out is seeming to be hard. any advise from the ladies out their on what a single dad should do??????

Single full time dad trying to get back into dating?
Congratulation, it is fantastic that you are taking steps that could bring some of the most challenging, yet most exciting time of your life. Having a child is a great indicator that you are a man who is serious about his life, someone who won’t give up easy in times of difficulties, clearly shows certain strength of character and commitment.





Getting back in to the dating life could be as challenging and as fun as you make it. It is a New Year and time for new opportunities!





There are few factors that women are attracted to, and it seems that you have most of these qualities. First and foremost, women need a strong man, not someone who would crumble and give up when things get tough. They also want someone who is a leader and is in charge of his life, and even maybe be a leader in her life as well. Another very important factor, is women want someone who has a busy and exciting life, this means a man who knows how to have a good time and to enjoy his life. Considering your circumstances and not knowing what kind of person you are, I suggest you start few extracurricular activities, maybe join a Salsa club, start going to the swimming pool once or twice a week, maybe there is a popular cooking classes somewhere in your area where women hang out, maybe even get a puppy and take your child and puppy for a walk in the park where there are a lot of people.





It would help to have a number of things happening at the same time, this would expose you to the greater pool of people and potential partners. Maybe become friends with few of the females that you come across but they don’t really catch your attention, remember, even the ugliest women in a world has a gorgeous and exciting friend. If you establish few friendships with women, and have fun with them on a regular basis (catch up every week or second week to have fun and/or just relax and have a bit of D%26amp;M), at the end of the day, they will talk amongst each other and will start to set you up on dates.





Don’t be needy when you go on the date, if nothing else you would earn a new friend. Rather then trying to suck up to a women, make sure that you almost qualify her as to why she should be in your life and once she feels that you are a challenge she will start to chase you! Remember, women hate desperate and needy, but they LOVE the challenge of wining over a fun and exciting men.





Well, hope it helps. Good luck, Add me to 360 if you have any other questions.
Reply:Just be himself. Your child must come first. Be honest with these women, i mean don't just blurt out the fact that you have a 2yo, but bringing it up in convo on the 1st date would be my best advice. If they run, then they weren't right anyway.





And don't bring them into your son's life until you are sure. No child should be exposed to the dating scene. Wait until you find the right one.





I have dated a few guys with kids. I spent 2 yrs with the first one, and I love his son like my own. It was very hard to end the r'ship because i had to part with two ppl, not just one. The last guy I never met his kids. I saw pics etc and he talked about them alot, but I am glad I never met them as it didn't work between us.





I'm sure the right one is out there.
Reply:I am a single dad of a 5 year old. I have dated off and on for the last couple of years. Dating again is not easy, especially when you never thought you would have to do it again. Be honest. They should know about your son. If you're anything like me you couldn't hide it even if you tried. He is such an important part of my life that our connection just seems to radiate. If a woman is not cool with your son, you don't need her. This won't be easy. I ended a relationship with someone that I felt really close to and felt a connection with because I realized that she just wasn't what was best for my son. It was hard, but I can see now that it was truly for the best. Keep a positive attitude and just try to do what is best for you and your son. I know that this doesn't help you with finding dates, that will happen if you really want it to, but I thought you should just get a heads-up on some of what you should expect.
Reply:It is scary! Just be careful and keep your child sheltered. Do not bring anyone around unless you intend to marry her.
Reply:Try parents without partners!
Reply:don't let the ladies know u have kids
Reply:Kids are GREAT conversation starters. Tak your son to the park, to the zoo, to the movies, and simply start conversations ladies who look nice. The ones who respond, even knowing that you have a kid, or ESPECIALLY knowing that you have a kid, are the ones with potential.


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