Saturday, April 17, 2010

Why do single moms always say I'm a single mom?

For every single mom there is a single dad giving away his pay to child support. But you never hear I'm a single dad


OK not every but a lot

Why do single moms always say I'm a single mom?
I hear it from people who have custody of the children. If you are the parent at home with the kids saying you are a "single mom" implies that you have little time without the children, and, that you are their primary provider.





I have heard dads say it also, and it is also when they have the kids the majority of the time.
Reply:i agree with DUE ANY DAY. its a hard job and gettin abit of money off child support agency is like a drop in the ocean.. thats if ur lucky to get it at all. my ex won,t pay me a penny for his 4 children.. wont and does.t want to have anything to do with them unless i get back in2 a relationship with him... and that will never happen. so hats off to all single parenst they need all the praise in the world
Reply:not sure--guess I've never thought about it-- yea, you are a single mom - but, the dad is also single.


maybe they are trying to get picked up?


good question!
Reply:Why shouldn't she say she's a single mom. She is a mom, and she's single. I actually know a few single dads who are raising their children by themselves. I also know some single dads who have shared custody and who pay child support and they consider themselves single dads. There are lots of single moms who don't get any child support from their ex's. I also know of a couple of kids who have deadbeat mom's. It goes both ways.
Reply:If a father is the primary care giver to the child, then I've heard them frequently call themselves single dads or fathers. I think claiming to be a single parent is done by the primary care giver. Yes, a father who is also single might provide money ... and that is a great and needed thing. But it is much more day to day investment and work to provide actual care to the child.
Reply:What the ? Because being a single mom is a hard ******* job, dumbass. Boo Hoo, some dad "giving away" his pay to "support" a child. Cry me a ******* river.Just because you pay a snippet of your salary for child rearing hardly means you are " supporting" your child. I can guarantee you that what I get in child support ( when I get it, if at all) is not nearly what it takes each month to pay for even a third of expenses of caring for my child. "Giving away his pay" ? That's the very least a non custodial parent should do. Try being a single parent for awhile and doing everything from being mom and dad, working full time, cleaning, shopping, paying bills, getting a child to school and home each day, taking care of them when they are sick and not being able to buy groceries because you had to miss 2 days of work because of that sick child,etc.What a stupid question!!!
Reply:I hear single dads say it as much as women but i guess that is just me.Although i havnt actually met many single dads it always seems to be women
Reply:the problem maybe the dad have never give birth.
Reply:Dont know about going around just blurting out that " oh, hi I'm a single mom" and no not alot of dads or moms give child support because my children had two different fathers and neither one paid child support even though the judges only was having them pay one was suppose to pay ten dollars a week the other fourty dollars a week...It took ten years to get the 10 dollar a week to pay up thanks to a different judge and the other never paid a penny. I have a male cousin that has custody of four children and his ex-wife never paid a penny either. so being a single parent raising a child by them selves even with child support coming in still there is more to it . the single parent has to raise that child and cover being the mom and dad every single day of the child's life. the missing parent has weekends or what ever was agreed upon in court. the missing parents might love their children enough to be involved in afterschool activities, and some of the child's social life. but that parent isn't around twenty-four seven. good luck on making your point across. their are alot of guys and gals out their that are defently not going to agree with this.
Reply:coz they r single.
Reply:It identifies them. I never refer to myself as a married mom, but that is a different issue. My issue with your question is that of "giving away" your pay. WHAT? You are financially contributing to the financial support of your own child. I would suggest you take measures to prevent any more children until you are responsible enough to understand what goes into raising a child.


I have heard men refer to themselves as single dads. Problem is that usually the dad takes off and leaves the child with the mom. Mothers think of themselves as mothers 24/7. Unfortunately not enough men think of themselves as dads in the same way. Too many men think of themselves as men with kids not as dads. Maybe that is why there are so many dysfunctional kids out there today.........
Reply:I guess I am a single mom then because my son's single dad doesn't give him a single dime!!!!! No diapers, clothes, shoes, food, nothing. But complains about how much his new truck costs or how his nice new home costs so much. He makes more than twice as much as me and doesn't even pay for a doctor's visit. But still has visitation rights. Sorry, had to vent.





To answer your question, probably because the mom usually has primary guardianship. I am a single mother and my man is a single father. He has custody of his.


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