Dating a single mom...... How do men think of a single mother and dating?

I have recently became a 27 year old single mother of a 14 month old little boy. I have done some reading and a lot of blogs etc. will state that men do not like single mothers. Why is this? If anything being a single mother shows her maturity, independence and above all strength. Why do guys look at this as such a negative. To all of the single mothers out there..... Do you find it hard to start dating again when you have a child? Do you find it even more difficult? How do you tell someone who is interested in you that you have a child? Any advice is welcomed... Thanks!

Dating a single mom...... How do men think of a single mother and dating?
Everyone has their own ideas, but I'd have to say that for some men, kids are a turn-off. They simply aren't ready to consider parenthood at this point in their lives.





It can be more complex, of course. When I was single, I had no problem dating single moms...until I actually began a relationship with one and ended up really liking the kid. He was like 3 or 4, and we got along great. He was smart and funny and I really looked forward to seeing him.





But...I wasn't getting along as well with his Mom anymore. She and I grew apart, and it really hurt me because not only did I miss the kid, but she would tell me (of course) that he was asking about me and stuff. It broke my heart....much more than breaking up with the girl did.





So, after that, I chose not to date women with kids. It was only ironic because I'd heard from other friends of mine how they'd break up with girls they liked because the girl's kids didn't like them, or they were just plain bad kids. But, in my case, the kid was awesome, and I didn't want to go through that pain again if things didn't work out with the Mom.





So, yes...a single Mom with a kid will scare away some guys. Usually it's the fear of becoming an "instant parent" or the unpleasantness that normally accompanies dealing with the child's biological father as the 'new boyfriend'. It can suck- especially if the kid's Dad is a jerk who still has feelings for the Mom or something...or if he's an addict or whatever and makes a habit of stopping by whenever he feels like it, or when he's drunk or high or whatever.





Ask me how I know these things....! LOL





Also, as a guy who's dating a girl, you'd like to be "priority one" in her life for awhile. You'd like to feel like the most important person in her life. But, if she has a kid, that will never be the case (unless she's a bad mom, which is another reason to leave her.)








Things are just MUCH simpler with a girl who doesn't have children.





Sure, sometimes things work out, where the guy loves the girl AND her kids, and the kids love the guy, and the girl's ex (kid's Dad) is really cool, and everyone gets along famously. But honestly, that's pretty rare.
Reply:..The intelligent m,en marry a single mother with a child..even if she has a child..if they like her..she could be much better then other women who don't have kids..or who have never married..much beautiful, more inteligent, more faithful, more loving..etc..more christian
Reply:i dont mind if the woman i was dating had a child for i hope to have one one day aswell. i dont know why so many might have a problem with it. but i suggest that you tell any one that is intrested in you upfront that you have one or it can cause problems.
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Reply:Based on personal experience, I have more dates than I can manage. I'm not bragging, but some men find single mothers very attractive! Especially, those that take care of themeselves. Babysitting arrangements are the only issue I have encountered. I personally don't allow men in my childrens' life unless, they are serious about our relationship. If you come across those that don't want to deal with single moms, simply move along. These men immediately think "baby daddy" drama, so they rather not deal with it. As you've mention, being a single mom does show maturity, independence, and strength, which are very good qualities in a woman. So, if these men can't see these qualities in you, then you're better off without them. Have fun and be safe!!
Reply:I've dated single moms and it has been great for myself.


I enjoy the kids and doing things together.


And the mom's say they have a lot of fun.


Take Care and Good Luck.
Reply:I would date a single mother as long as she doesnt expect me to be her child's father. Other than that I dont see anything wrong with it