Thursday, November 19, 2009

Single dad with kids?

I am single dad with 3 kids(live with me) single women with no kids seem to back away once I tell them is there another way to apporach it or should I just look to date single moms who are in the same situation I am in because they understand

Single dad with kids?
Be honest with them, nothing else you can do. Why does it have to be a single women. A single women most likely does not want all your baggage. So you may have to stop the single ladies and date some ladies who as some baggage also. Sorry, but single ones what their own children, not yours.
Reply:There isn't another way to approach it.. you have a great deal of responsibility on your life, you have three little lives depending on you, and any woman you choose to spend time with should be special and caring enough to not only accept your situation, but embrace it. Single moms are not necessarily the only ones that will (in fact, some of them will back away from you as well), so all you can do is find those special people and get to know them. And ones that back away, well, do you want them in your kids' life anyway? (I'm a single mom, btw, and have had relationships with guys without kids, so it is possible..) Good luck!
Reply:If certain women back away from the fact that you have kids,,,then they arent meant for you in the first place. There is some women out there who would love you AND YOUR KIDS. my man came into my house knowing i have a son,,,and takes care of the both of us very well. You will find a women that will love the chance to be with you and your kids...Maybe yes it would be better for you to meet single moms that do understand. You are a great dad thats obvious...someone will be lucky to have you.
Reply:lie to them and then be honest example im the oldest of four
Reply:If your looking for a soul mate than every person that you tell, should accept you and be happy to be with you.





If ur looking for a little poontang, than leave the kids with a relative/babysitter, and rock the cazba!
Reply:some women probably feel like there will be drama with them and ur ex or maybe even with your kids. maybe some feel that it's a huge commitment...they view ur kids as "extra baggage"... im sure there are women out there who isnt too concern about that. on the other hand.. i feel that shouldn't matter whether you have kids or not. If they truly like you as a person..they should learn how to accept that, because your kids is apart of your life too.if they cant love ur kids like they love you...kick em' to the curb. It varies from woman to woman.. goodluck
Reply:Welcome to the club pardner. I suffered for a long time. MR. Mom is a scary fellow to most single women w/o c. Mainly because they have not had 1 of their own and u got 3. To u and me it may not be a big deal but it scares the Bloody Hell out of the fairer sex. E-Harmony worked 4 me. I wouldn't trade my soul mate 4 all the tea in china. Good Luck!
Reply:Be honest. Always. Most single women without children just don't want to get involved with a guy who has children. Try women who are in the same situation as you. They can relate to you better. Have you tried Parents Without Partners, or Catholic singles or something along those lines?
Reply:I had the same situation in 1988 minus I child. I was not looking, but I met a beautiful lady with 2 children of her own, and now the children are grown and we have 5 beautiful grand kids. I myself was never good at trying to find the right person for me, but when I was not looking the most wonderful thing just happened. Good Luck to you my friend
Reply:Maybe the women you are looking for either don't want kids right now or don't want kids at all. I would definitely advise to keep your eyes open for single moms....school functions are PERFECT for this. It brings the children and the single parents together.





Good luck
Reply:hang in there dude.....there is always a place in some woman's heart for a man who loves his children. If you can handle the lives of 3 children, you are bound to find some lady that will see your upsides....if they balk at the children, then you don't want her anyway...I'd assume the kids are the most important thing to you...not just having a woman for the sake of having a woman...wait for the right one...she's out there somewhere
Reply:good luck, find women that have kids too.
Reply:Nope. What are you going to do...lie?! You have kids...that is your reality.


Honestly, you just have to meet women and whatever happens happens. Don't narrow your options ON PURPOSE.
Reply:It's pretty tough isn't it? No way to get through it but to go through it and keep looking. My cousin did well on eharmony.
Reply:no, u just havent found miss right,keep lookn, she is under your noise, i bet u.
Reply:all I have to say is you are rare man and any woman would be lucky to have you.... hang in there !
Reply:You want to be with someone who understands and compliments you-Some women may be scared but those women are just missing out on what a great guy you are. A more mature woman would think that it was great that you are stepping up and being a dad. Be patient-Good luck
Reply:Many years ago I ended up with my three sons, a single parent. They attended three different schools in the same town. At first I dedicated all I had to taking care of them. Two were into sports, the oldest was into music. When I began trying to date again, it sort of happened by chance. You have to be upfront with the ladies because with three boys it would be impossible to date. I finally met someone that was a single parent (through work, a customer), we included all the kids. They appreciated it. We told them for the time being we were not going to get married or live together. After about two years, she was transferred across the country. We still stay in touch.
Reply:the reason why single woman with no kids dont want men with three or how many ever kids is because they dont want kids.. so i would reccomend you go with the woman with kids. Unless you find a woman with no kids that wants kids..lol
Reply:be honest, always. the right woman will stay.
Reply:I'm single, with no kids. Yet. I'd date a man with kids - but only on one condition: He'd be open to having more.





Part of the reason a lot of women shy away from men with kids is that most times those men don't want more kids - with them. I'm here to tell you that I know I want my own. Doesn't mean I couldn't love another woman's children should I fall in love with their father - just means that I want to have my own too.





That said - there are women out there that don't care either way. I have a very good friend who married a man with a 6 year old 10 years ago - she's a better mother to the girl than her real mother. They never had a child together, but she looks at this girl as if she were her own flesh and blood.





They're out there - but you need to always be honest with what you have and what you want. If you know that you don't want more kids - be HONEST. Don't say "maybe" or "not sure". That right there will get you ignored by both types of women.
Reply:honey, your women without children days are over....it has been the same for me and guysm if they dont have kids, then pretty much they dont want kids......so look for women with children is my advice
Reply:Its not worth it, Just be a dad, women will only screw things up between you and your kids... Trust me... I too am a single father with full custody... I fought for this in court - why would i ever allow another person to come between me and my kids
Reply:It doesn't seem like women with kids have trouble getting men without kids - so it shouldn't be any different for men. Maybe it's the kind of girl your going after. Don't sugar coat the facts - be upfront about your situation. It's very noble (especially NOWADAYS) for a man to take charge of his childrens' lives. Any woman who can't see the sacrifice you are making and be impressed by it isn't worth the time. And don't settle - If you WANT a woman with no other children - then get one. You never know who you'll run into .. perhaps a woman who can't have children of your own and would jump at the chance to love yours : ) Children are a gift - not a crutch ...





From: A Happy Mother of 3 : )
Reply:I would think that most women would be attracted to a man who is raising his own kids. It's not often you see someone so dedicated. A single mother might have an easier time understanding because they've been in that situation as well. The only thing you can do is be honest, and hope you meet someone who doesn't hold it against you.
Reply:There are plenty of single women who don't have kids out there who will be completely comfortable with your situation. It just takes finding that special someone. It may not be your kids that are getting in the way; it's more likely it's you. I'm sure you don't want to hear that, but look more in to what you are doing. If you're talking about them constantly, then that could be a turn off for someone who don't have kids. They can't relate. Do fun things on dates %26amp; let it be all about the woman you're with. Don't talk about all the material things you have or had in your life. Women get turned off hearing those things. Good luck!


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