Thursday, November 19, 2009

Single or Married?

Is the grass greener on the other side? My married friends tell me to stay single as long as I can, and that I really don't want to be married, I'll live longer. But then I hear my single friends say, being single is the pits at times and they rather be married. Benefits of both? Downfalls to each? Does it even matter anymore? Does your marital status define you?

Single or Married?
Being single has its advantages and so does being married. But don't be in a hurry to get married. When you are single you only have yourself to answer to, you can come and go when you want, do what you want, when you want. With marriage comes the give and take, trying to understand what the partner likes and dislikes, and vise versa. But marriage is a beautiful thing, and it is a two way street where you need to compromise. Marriage should not define you, The way you are now should be the way you still are in marriage. And in this day and age some people look at it as if it doesn't mean anything anymore,,, commitment and vows. But just be yourself , and someday you will find someone and you will know in your heart what to do.
Reply:Marry but be happy, they have said it all.
Reply:Single-Come and go as you please. Do what you want.





Married-Held accountable by someone all the time. Do what the other person wants.





I am married and I love the fact that I know someone that I love is waiting for me at home when I get there.





When I was single I loved doing what I wanted when I wanted with whom I wanted but after a while that gets old.





Don't rush into anything. When you feel it's right.......pursue it. Until then have fun.
Reply:Don't listen to them. All relationships have to evolve into something. Eventually you will want to marry. I am happy I am married. I have someone to share my inner most thoughts with. I have someone who cares for me and loves me. Of course there are downfalls. But, what you gain is worth it. I am not defined by my marriage, I define my marriage.
Reply:In this day and age does it matter if you are single or married? I say find someone you love, your soul mate and stick with it. Live is too short.
Reply:The grass isn't greener on either side. It comes down to how you feel inside. Many people enjoy staying single for much of their 20s and early 30s. There is nothing wrong with at. On the flip side, marriage comes with alot more baggage, but also has its benefits. It really comes down to how you feel about yourself first. As for marriage defining you, you should be "defined" before saying any "I Do".
Reply:Well, marital status helps define you. But the idea here is that some people are in love with the idea of being married, not really in love with their spouse.





I'm semi-happily married to my wife. We have our arguments, and it's not always the best, greatest thing on earth, but I love being married to her. We have arguments like single people do. We had to figure out how to coexist with each other, which is still a learning experience to this day. We have learned a lot and hurt a lot with each other, but I wouldn't give it up for the world.





Marriage works for some people. For some people, it's a failed experiment. It depends on how you view life. Sometimes, I'll joke with my friends, telling them to wait until 40 to get married. Then my wife frowns at me severely, and we laugh. Marriage brings you closer, but you have to have an incredible amount of patience, trust, faith, love, and you have to be able to WORK at it much more than just dating.





It pays off. Greatest thing I've ever done.





Good luck.
Reply:Married or single the status defines your legal position. Being single on a cold wet afternoon when all your friends are out and all you have is a cat, is pretty depressing. Being married is a life change which most people happily adapt to. The only thing which matters is who you marry. He should be the most important person in your life. Both single and married life offer different comforts. Singles can go where they want when they want with who they want and do not have to refer to the partner/children/school holiday schedules / dog kennels etc. But marrieds have always got someone to talk with, to share the ups and downs of life and you grow together. It seems from reading the YA sections for some time that people with bad marriages often knew beforehand that they would not work and they were pressured into marriage. Age tells a story where two people are both very young the guys usually can't cope with the responsibilities especially when a baby comes along in a short time and they have not even got to know one another yet. If you take these into consideration and ask why marriage was instituted in the first place (God saw that it was not good for man to be alone) then the best reason is that you have hugs on tap, a back scratcher and someone who you can be yourself with. If you choose right, otherwise it can be hell. Good luck.
Reply:Nobody can really answer that for you. I know that I am happier being married, I love to be committed to someone I love and can built a meaning realtionship with and have a family. Some people can not settle with one person and don't want to have kids, I'd say stay single. Ask yourself if you prefer the thrill and freedom being able to do wahtever you want without consulting your partner and not knowing if you'll spend the weekend or night alone. Ask yourself what makes you more happy. It's a choice and a preference of life style.
Reply:marry
Reply:It depends on what you want and how you approach it. Marriage is WORK and some people don't realize how much effort it takes to make it work. You have to go into it knowing that you're sharing your life with someone who is different. I think being married is one of the best things because you always have someone to share your life with. Being single is not bad either, you just have to figure out what you want and go from there.
Reply:I've been single, I've been married and I've been single again. I prefer single.
Reply:i am married... although the road of marriage is not as smooth as i want it to be but i still have no regrets being married to my husband...


it was lonely being single although the joy of freedom is there... but at least when you are married, you can come home to someone who would be there to cheer you up when you are moody and vexed...
Reply:No regrets, that i am married for 27 years. although, we had heavy quarrel/fighting, there are times I want to quit but thankz GOD, I am still here and I was blessed with 4 beautiful and talented children. finished their studies with flying colors and now working with high pay. They are very caring and thougthful to me and to their father. At least, we can look forward that they'll be the one who will take care on us especially on our old age.


What can i say more, it's better to be married and have children than to remain single.
Reply:I think being attached is better. At least, you've got someone to share your joys and woes. Somebody who enjoy your companion and loves you. And in my opinion, it doesn't really matter whether you're married or not. Isn't it? Other than legally recognised and giving some kind of recognition to your wife...People still marry and divorce anyway?
Reply:This is a personal choice, and how good is your present relationship is it marriage material, or does it still need time.... you have to do what is right for yourself.... and what makes you the happiest...
Reply:It all depends on what you want. But I agree, most people want what they cant or dont have.
Reply:I meet this man 10 years ago, 4 years ago I got pregnant, we didn't get married,2 years ago we decided off the wall to get married....DON'T DO IT!!!! Meet someone, stay with them, be faithful to each other and care for one another...People say sex changes everything....Marriage does.
Reply:its better to have some1 u love who loves u bak and is commited to u, for the rest of ur life. if want to get married u shuld get married because u love each other and will love each other for the rest of your life. other wise marrage is pointless. be careful, love is not a fluttery feeling, "Love is paitent, love is kind. it does not envy, it dose not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angerd, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. it always PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always HOPES, always PERSERVERS." (1 corinthians 13:4-7)


marrage can be horrible if u marry the wrong person, so dont just marry any1.


this is slightly opinionated because i am not married. but i would like to get married some day. iv thought about this a fair bit.


i think its good to get married because then u kno tht there is and will always (till death) be some1 there for u, and u will be there for them. its so happy :)





i hope that wateva u decide to do u are happy with your decision. not evryone will be happy married.


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