I have been single all my life.....?

OK here's the scoop...


I am 29 about to hit the age of 30


I have never been in a realationship PERIOD..


I have persued a female friends that were only one-sided and saw me only as a nice friend.





A about five years ago I have accepted my status as single and free because my luck with love and what love has done to me..





From my single life I have achieved more single then I ever have..


Marine Corps...Degrees...Good Friends..





Now my friends are putting on the pressure of me finding someone .. and I hate it...love has brought me nothing but misery.


Everytime they make fun of my single life the more it pushes me to stay single and gut it out (to tell them off)....but I want to answer them in a more mature way..what can I say to them that will tell them I am happy single?

I have been single all my life.....?
Look man I'm in the same boat just turned 30 in January and have never been in a relationship either nor do I have any children. But you have to keep one thing in mind you can only live or yourself. Don't worry about what your friends say about you everyone has their own road to take in life. Trust me you are not the last man on earth without a wife or kids. I'm not even the only dude in my crew that hasn't went down the isle. Don'tworry about it let time take it's course and if she is out there then you guys will meet one day. But keep in mind don't force anything. You can't MAKE a female want you.
Reply:Just tell them that you are tired of being pushed to find someone and that you really are happy. If they're your friends, then they'll understand you.
Reply:Listen, no one can make you feel bad about anything. Only you can do that to yourself. Since it sounds like you have already some to terms with being single, and have accomplished much because of it, just don't let it get to you. People will always have a certain timeframe for doing things (finishing college, getting married, having kids, etc). Remember, this is your life and not theirs.





Sometimes the best response is no response. Or, if you do need to address it, why don't you just tell them, " timing is everything, and now is not the time-too busy". Or, " I have way too much to accomplish yet, being tied down would just slow me down". or better yet, "What works for you, just doesn't fit into my plans right now, I have too much going on". Really, no matter what you say, they will still pester you about it.





I have been a happily single woman for years. I now have a son and feel my life to be quite complete. I do not worry what others think. I simply worry about what matters to me, and to the welfare of my son.





You have done so much with your life already. Good for you. The right one will come along if it is meant to be. In the meantime, you are doing great things that you will look back on and be so much more proud of then trying to chase women.
Reply:just say "no alimony payments man"
Reply:explain your situation to them to the best of your ability. dont keep it all inside, because you'll end up saying something you dont want to.
Reply:Just say "I want to completely explore being me before I decide to share my life with someone and so far, I'm having a great time figuring out who I am."





I was single till I was 41. Married now for four wonderful years and we'll stay married the rest of our lives. How many of them can say that with the confidence I can?





(Alternative answer.......tell them you are still looking for a woman who has the same bizarre sexual fetishes you have! That will stop them from trying to play matchmaker for you...)
Reply:I am happy single. I will look for someone when I am ready.
Reply:Well, people will always have their own conceptions of what is normal and what is not normal. I think that what is normal for one person is bizarre for another. You should be aware that they wont change their opinions much, but they may understand sooner or later that you are happy with what you are doing right now and that's not something that is on your plate. Don't feel weird about it. It's quite normal, from bankers to priests to celebrities there are plenty of people who feel comfortable without a partner. Good luck!
Reply:If you know some people with bad relationships or someone that got hurt then tell them you don't want to go through that. I have been through a handful where I got hurt and I'm about to give up. I'm 30. Nothing wrong with being single. Some people prefer it. Tell them you have more fun doing whatever you want whenever you want.
Reply:Tell them nicely, but firmly that you will decide when and if you want to get involved and that you will let them know if you want them to help you find someone, but for now you're not looking to be involved.
Reply:First of all-it doesn't really matter what people think-even if friends its none of their buis-tell them they are just jealous


secondly I was in the same ,happy, content, position when I was 30-just didn't click with any woman-had my fun but nothing serious.


When I was 33 -a young lady walked into my bar and I said to myself-this will be my wife


Still married 24 years later


Life is too short !!!!
Reply:First go up to a girl and say hi. then after a while start to get into conversations with a girl. Then hang out with her as a friend. After your confidence is at max ask her out. Good Luck!





luv ya T
Reply:You don't say exactly what the nature of the "pressure" your friends are putting on you might be (nosy questions? teasing? not-so-subtle hints about places to find a date? or worst of all, attempts at matchmaking?).





Still, I've been under similar pressure and can tell you a few things that have worked for me.





For nosy questions: "If and when I find someone, I'll let you know. Until then, I hope you'll respect my privacy and stop asking."





For teasing, go along with it! In fact, go so far over the top with it (e.g. "Yeah I guess I'll just hide out and be a monk") that they laugh WITH you, not AT you.





For hints and matchmaking, honesty is the best policy. Here are a couple of ways to say it diplomatically: "I don't have room in my life for this right now," or "I have other priorities right now."
Reply:Oh, that's so mean! Just tell them "Thanks, but no thanks. I'm not serching for anybody."
Reply:Yeah, I know what are you saying...people want to see you in a appropriate situation according to your age...and want to see you with someone, which mens dating. And they all concerned about "you" ...but don't see their flows...the critizice you...but they are not perfect...





So whenever they say to you, to find a date...just mention them something that they hate...and if you get an reaction..tell them " you see how hard it is "





I hope you got my point.





Wish you good luck.
Reply:If you really are happy single then just tell them that. You don't owe them an explanation other than the obvious.





If you want to meet someone try one of the matchmaker dating services on the Internet. Can't hurt.
Reply:well i would say.. Look its not somthing i need in my life right now and im happy without that other person... and if you cant accept that then we cant be friedns