Any single moms or guys out there dating single moms with Xmas coming? What do you do?

Any single moms secretly dreading christmas? Any single moms or guys out there dating single moms? What do you do?


I was married at 19 and until three years ago spent christmas at home with kids and husband. I am now divorced. Although I have gotten used to being alone it is still hard and I tend to get a little depressed during the holidays. I put on the fake happy face and celebrate with the tree and decorations and cookies for the kids, but I'm glad when its all over. I now have a boyfriend of 9 months by christmas. The kids have met him and like him but I'm not sure how to spend the holidays, or what to expect from him. His sister may be visiting him with her husband and kids. Any single moms or guys out there dating single moms? What do you all do?

Any single moms or guys out there dating single moms with Xmas coming? What do you do?
Last Christmas I was dating a single mom and I spent the entire day at her aunt's house. 8 hrs. of which I was putting together a Star Wars Lego toy for her son.
Reply:Well, you're not a single mom, you're a divorced mom....


Anyway, don't fake your feelings at the holidays. Your children are also feeling awful, with their family being all broken up and not having two parents. You need to support them wholly.


After just dating a dude nine months isn't nearly long enough to count on him to being your 'family' for Christmas. If you see him, fine, but I wouldn't include him in your family holiday events.
Reply:I would have them all over.....Christmas day and Christmas eve I would go to his house. This is what a relationship is all about don't you think....sharing the holidays and regular days together......tell him you get sad during the holidays, tell him this year you are happier because he is in your life. Thank him for that.
Reply:Ask him if he'd like to join you and your children for x-mas. I'd ask my boyfriend to join us, but both the kids are going to be away, so I'm gonna be kid free for about 2 weeks. Hope that helped.
Reply:In my opinion people make too much of these holidays. Very seldom can anyone live up to the romantic ideas of xmas that are portrayed in songs, movies and books. Be realistic. Make every day as special as possible and don't make the holidays be ''all that''. You are just setting yourself up to be let down. I have never been big on xmas. I always got my kids ''stuff'' all year around. When we went to the store I would tell them what or if we could afford for them to get a little something on that day.


As for the guy that you have been dating for 9 months I don't think that I would expect too much. First of all if you have to ask and wonder about it the two of you have not gotten all that close so far. If he is telling you that his sister *may* be visiting him ..he is trying to keep a little distance.
Reply:If you and the kids want to share the hoilday with your new boyfriend, then do so. what to expect, to have a good time and enjoyed being together rather alone. If he want to bring gifts for your kids, then allow him to do it on his own with out any hints from you. Unless he ask you if it alright to get your kids something for Christmas. Only remind him to do it from his heart and nothing else tag or unline clause. And have a wonderful Christmas together.
Reply:Don't expect anything from him. If he cares at all, he will buy the children some gifts. Have a nice family dinner, and give thanks to God for His blessings and for Jesus. Wish Jesus a happy birthday.
Reply:Ask him over for Christmas. he can get there early to watch the kids open presents. If he has family coming over,,and he can't come to your house,,maybe he'll invite you and the kids over to his house for lunch or something.