Are You Single Until You Have a Ring??

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Tonight my boyfriend and I were talking about relationships. We have been dating for 3 years. The convo began when I told him about my friend that tells people she's single, despite having a boyfriend of a year.





I always tell people I have a boyfriend. I asked my boyfriend what he tells people when they ask him if he's single. He said, he tells them he's single. I asked why. He said, "b/c your single until you have a ring on your finger"





I was a little hurt. I asked him further if he tells people that he has a girlfriend at all, and he says yes. I know he talks to people about me. I know all of his friends, family and even co-workers. But, I was still hurt. He's never cheated on me and doesn't believe in it.





I do understand that you are techinally, single until your wedding day, but still. I mean, am I responding to people's questions wrong. When they ask, "Are you single?" Should I say, "No, I have a boyfriend"

Are You Single Until You Have a Ring??
If you made a commitment you are no longer single ring or no ring
Reply:single till you get the ring's
Reply:first of all he is wrong. Having a ring on your finger is showing others you are committed in a MARRIED relationship and that you have your spouse. When people ask if he is single and he says yes,they are assuming he has NO gf whatsoever. So he needs to stop telling other people he is single.It is 110% to be hurt from it. I would of been hurt too espessially if its a long term relationship of 3 years. You answer whatever answer you want to give them.
Reply:If someone asks your boyfriend if he is single, his proper response should be, "I'm in a relationship." or "I'm seeing someone." or "I'm attached."





His lack of saying any of these things points our how "De-tached" he feels about the relationship. Apparently it's good enough for him but he's hoping he can find something better - and he's pretty brazen about it.





Unfortunately that isn't so good for you. You might want to consider looking for another boyfriend - one that won't take you for granted.
Reply:his opinion is quite different than youre, and Id be hurt too. heck, after 3 years finding that out, Im a guy, and Id cry.





Talk to him about this and how it hurt you. if he loves you hell understand.





When you are in love you dont run around loving other people besides the one that you are with. that goes for boyfriend girlfriend relationships. the idea that he thinks its ok to love multiple people till marriage, or would think nothing of breakign off a 3 year relationship for another girl he thought he liked more.....dear god, thats downright cruel. I dont think it can be called love if it isnt exclusive.





the idea of love is the person being there for you psiritually, physically. there to cry with you, there to laugh with you. to hold your deepest screrets, and to comfort you when you need comfort. And bf/gf relationships are about that, or supposed to be I think, I mean, hts testing to see if that works, and I think it can hurt to breakup as much as dicorce does, theres just no paperwork. you know?
Reply:F*ck him..if he's single, your single! Single means you aren't in a relationship and that is NOT specific to marriage!What an *sshole!Perhaps you need to find someone that wants to be exclusive!
Reply:okay this is just my opinion, cuz i've been datin the same guy for over a year.. when people ask if im dating someone then i say yes, and when they ask if im single i say no, because being single kinda means that you arent seeing anyone at all... or atleast that is how i feel about it... unless you have a friend with benefits or something... but that really isnt the point, i think you ought to just listen to yourself when it comes to this because people are either going to tell you to say it one way or another... but just remember that if your boyfriend's friends, family, ect.. know that you are dating him.. then that's all that really matters
Reply:umm wel i would think u r single if u dont have anyone so yaa i think that guy is a jerk saying that he is single when he is not
Reply:hecky nawl. you need to be loyal to your boyfriend! how else are you going to get a ring?!?!? lol you're a smart girl. you'll figure this out. because when it comes to stuff likee that you have to answer for your self! good luck
Reply:Make sure the subject comes up again and tell him with your sweetest smile "A guy at work asked today if I was single, and I remembered what you said so I just said 'yes'. It sure felt funny saying it, but I guess you were right." Give him something to think about!
Reply:single but dating someone, or in a serious relationship- would be the correct way for your beau to approach this. legally for document purposes he is single but lets get real, if he is with you in a serious relationship, he should mention it.
Reply:b/c i guess, when ur single u can date, and break up with ne 1 u want. But when ur married u stay together, or until if u ever get divorced and become single agin. does that make since?...lol. Just ask him. Maybe he dosen't consider "single" the same thang u do. good luck! :)
Reply:you are single but spoken for
Reply:You should say yes but i have a boyfriend.
Reply:Your bf is an asshat.
Reply:I'm married, don't wear a ring, I would never cheat, I love my wife. I don't see or understand the correlation between the two. If you're committed to someone then you're not single.
Reply:Wow... I've never heard that before about the ring...


Maybe you should just buy a cheap ring and put it on, so the saying no longer applies to you =D


That's totally what I'd do haha


I definetly think you're no longer single when you have a bf though


Cause usually when people as you that, they're only asking it to mean the same as "do you have a boyfriend?"


Even if technically that's not how it goes, I think it makes things less confusing if you tell them you have a boyfriend


Hey, that's what you can do! Don't be like "yes" or "no" just be like "I have a bf!"


=D


(sry if that was confusing o.O)
Reply:Yep .....Im single .... and until I have a ring ...Im single.
Reply:I suggest you talk with him. Work it out so that such a small problem won't ruin from what you describe a good relationship. Seriously, I think he was speaking about being married or single. When people ask you that, then say you are single because you are not married. When they ask you to go out, say you have a bf/gf already. Simple as that.