Single for 5 months and losing all hope.....?

i am an attractive 27 year old girl... i have a good job and rent an apartment on my own....i have been single for the past 5 months... don't know if that's considered long or not... i've dated a few guys here and there but seem to keep meeting the wrong ones/jerks who keep making a disapearing act... i want a bf.... i miss having s/o and am lonely.... guys keep letting me down and i am losing hope veruy quickly... i've had a very difficult past 5 months at that... stressful time at work which now seems to be getting better.... i've racked up credit card debt..... looking for a part time job to pay it off.... it's quite overwhelming though.... before i was single i was in an 11 year relationship.... i wasn't IN love and we broke up.... we are stil best friends which i am greatful for.... then i got into another relationship RIGHT AWAY and TOTALLY fell in love w/ him and he broke my heart. we were together fora few months. guess i'm looking for some advice. anyone ever been where i am?

Single for 5 months and losing all hope.....?
first off think about yourself get your credit paid down find that parttime job. don't think about meeting some one and quit looking so hard,once you quit looking it will come to you
Reply:you should focus on being happy by yourself instead of depending on a relationship to determine your happiness. 5 months is NOT a long time to be single
Reply:No one "falls" in love, honey. We learn to love over time. Falling in love implies a lack of control and is silly. You choose your emotional responses.





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